Most people in this world do not make conscious choices. With that I mean that we do not choose our thoughts nor the feelings or emotions that we are creating. Most of the times we do not even choose our behavior. We do not think about what energy or content of consciousness that we allow into our conscious mind and – as a result – by that what we allow to remain in our subconscious mind.
In order for us to remain in a state of always making “conscious choices” with regards to every thought, feeling, word, energy and deed, we must first learn the art of self-mastery. And how do we do that? By learning how to detach – as in disidentify – ourselves. You see, if you are identifying yourself with certain thoughts, feelings, things, etc. you – by doing that – hinder yourself from having the ability to choose.
Now, detaching isn’t all that easy, I know that. Facts are, if you for example instantly react instead of choosing how to respond to the actions of someone else you make yourself a victim. Do you see what I mean? Feelings are a choice – they don’t just suddenly happen to us. They are built up from something – deeply buried inside of you and likely from a (sub)conscious fear you have – and if you do not meet these feelings and detach yourself from them you’ll get stuck.
Remember that our fears comes from love, they are two different sides of the same coin. The only way to dissolve them is to challenge them straight on, regardless if it’s a fear of losing someone, fear of doing something or fear of seeing and being your authentic Self.
We cannot always control what comes into our life but we do have free choice as to the attitude and perspective we take towards it. Ask yourself, do I want the Spirit or my negative Ego to guide my actions? Do I want love or fear? Do I want oneness or separation?
As I said before, this isn’t always easy – we are humans severely affected by the impact of society – and you will make mistakes that you’ll regret deeply. However if (or when) you do choose wrongly, or do not choose at all at some times, learn the lesson God has given you, forgive yourself – and apologize to anyone that might have been affected by your choice – and make a new choice!
When you have mastered the blessing of free choice you will be in perfect harmony with God because what opens your divine consciousness – the connection with God – is the development and refinement of your spiritual journey.
“I will still love you even if you are not perfect. I will still love you even if you’re not always the kind of person I wished you were? I will still look into your eyes with warmth even if I’ve seen your shadows. I will still hold your hand even if I know there will be times you’ll let me down. I will still do everything to ensure your happiness even if you do nothing – because I love you.” – unknown