Success Through Marshall Goldsmith´s AIWATT

Q3P6NCT23EFor you to be successful in making a particular change, it´s important that you are both motivated to change and are confident about making that specific change.

“We are geniuses at coming up with reasons to avoid change. We make excuses. We rationalize. We harbor beliefs that trigger all manner of denial and resistance. As a result, we continually fail at becoming the person we want to be.”

The words are those of leadership guru and mentor Marshall Goldsmith. In the manifesto “AIWATT and the Empty Boat” he shares a simple technique for becoming the person you want to be. You can get the manifesto here, AIWATT

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Train Yourself to Be More Positive in 5 Steps

Today´s blog post is written by featured guest blogger, Zohaib Akhlaq, the founder of HowEntrepreneur.com

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We often come across tough times in our life where it’s difficult to stay positive.

When your job is miserable, money is tight and life is just generally challenging, it’s often easier to slide into a funk, thinking that things are never going to get better and you’re destined to be a grump.

But if you let that happen, you open yourself up to a whole host of problems, ranging from strained relationships (who wants to hang out with a Debbie Downer?) to serious health problems, including cardiovascular problems and substance abuse.

The good news is that you can take control of your thoughts and shift your thinking from “negative” to “positive.”

Try practicing a few of these behaviors the next time you catch yourself spiraling into negativity, and watch your mental and physical health improve dramatically.

1. Practice Mindfulness

In today’s always-open, 24/7 world, it’s easy to be pulled in multiple directions and feel like you need to keep multiple plates spinning all the time; however, constantly trying to pay attention to the messages coming in on the phone and the computer while you have a conversation and watch television is a sure fire way to cause stress and feelings of being overwhelmed.

Instead of constantly multitasking, take time to notice the world around you — pay attention to the sound of leaves rustling as the breeze blows or how the sun feels on your skin as you walk to work.

Focus on one thing at a time and be in the moment, and you’ll see your stress and negative feelings diminish.

2. Is This Real?

One simple trick that forensic psychology graduate programs recommend to immediately defuse negative thoughts is to ask a simple question: Are these thoughts true?

Many times, we get caught up in negative thoughts that aren’t really true. Perhaps you hear a voice saying that something terrible is going to happen or that you aren’t capable of doing something.

Before allowing that thought to take hold, stop for a moment and consider whether it’s really true. Unless there is a compelling reason for the thought to be true, dismiss it.

Turn it into something positive: “I’m going to try my best on this project” instead of “I’m doomed for failure.”

3. Make a Gratitude List

It’s quite simple: When you acknowledge and feel grateful for what you have, you don’t have time for thinking about what you lack.

And if you’re like most people, when you start listing everything good in your life, you’ll immediately start feeling better and more positive.

4. Help Others

Helping others accomplishes several things when it comes to shifting how you think.

First, giving back to those who are less fortunate — or even just easing someone else’s load — provides perspective.

You might be frustrated with your job and wish you had a bigger or nicer place to live, but spending some time volunteering in a homeless shelter can help you see how much you have.

Second, being kind and helpful to others increases the chance they will extend the same courtesy to you, helping you feel better and more positive about your life and the world around you.

5. Picture Your Safe Place

There’s no denying it: Maintaining a positive, upbeat attitude is good for your health. Multiple studies and anecdotal evidence have proven those who stay optimistic, even when facing setbacks, are generally healthier and less stressed.

Sometimes, taking a short “mental break” can help you get your thoughts back on a positive track. Taking a few moments to slow down and picture yourself in a relaxing place — whether that’s the beach, the mountains or simply a quiet room — helps you refocus your thoughts and clear out any worries or negative feelings that threaten to take over.

Focus on your breathing, and visualize yourself relaxing. Once you do so, you’ll feel the negativity floating away.

Conclusion

Some people are naturally positive thinkers and don’t have any trouble keeping a cheerful and upbeat mindset.

However, even the happiest and most positive people have rough days, so having some go-to strategies for stopping negativity in its tracks can stop problems before they start, and keep you healthy mentally and physically.

Biography

Zohaib Akhlaq is the founder of HowEntrepreneur.com where he teach entrepreneurs and startup owners something new daily. You can follow him on Facebook, Twitter and Google+.

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15 Rules for Happy Living

couple-692708_1280When I woke up early this morning I was experiencing such intense gratitude and happiness for all that I have in my life, that I started laughing – I simply love when that happens.

It made me reflect on what easy-to-implement habits we can develop to make our lives easier and more joyful. Here’s 15 simple tips for a happy living:

  1. Count your BLESSINGS, not your troubles.
  2. Live ONE DAY at the TIME.
  3. Say “I love you” OFTEN.
  4. Be a GIVER, not a taker.
  5. Seek for GOOD in EVERYONE and EVERYTHING.
  6. Pray EVERYDAY.
  7. Do at least one GOOD DEED a day.
  8. Learn to count (keep PRIORITIES in line).
  9. Let NO little and/or imaginary things bother you.
  10. Practice a “DO IT NOW” habit.
  11. Fill your LIFE with GOOD.
  12. Learn to LAUGH and to CRY.
  13. SMILE and the world will smile with you.
  14. Fear NOTHING and no one.
  15. Let go and let GOD take over.

What are some of your favourite habits for a happy life? We’d love to hear all about them!
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1-Minute Playbook: Get Into The Groove

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Music adds significantly to your success

Do you enjoy listening to upbeat music when you’re working out? And maybe something mellow when you are feeling a bit down? If so, you’re not alone. Most people actually use music as “mood management”, shifting not only the volume but also the type of music depending on their mood.

Research has showed that that’s a great idea though! It turns out that different kinds of music – as well as the volume – affect different areas of your brain. Classical music can improve visual attention and, while high volume and upbeat music might be good for your exercise, a moderate noise level is perfect for getting your creative juices flowing.

Your own motivational playlist

Create a motivational playlist that will make you feel good – one that will make you rock. It will mobilize that positive energy that you’ve got within. And when that happens, you will soon get to enjoy the new miracles that you will be creating in your life.

1-Minute Playbook: Your mindset is everything

ozzyA wonderful life begins with a wonderful mindset

Regardless of how it might feel sometimes, you are in control of your thoughts and your life. Your life is your own creation, be it great or not. That also means that you have the power to make it even better. One way to do that, is to shift your mindset into “gratitude-“mode.

As soon as you wake up in the morning, take a moment to think about and feel gratitude for all that you have in your life. Once you start to truly appreciate that you life is a blessing, I can assure you that it’s going to be improved even further.

The Road to Success: 10 Of My Favorite Quotes Of All Time

fitness-332278_1280All successful people get inspired and learn from others. Fuel your own creativity and be motivated to action by some of my own favorite quotes.

What you think, you become.”
– Buddha

The power of your thoughts is astonishing. Not only do your negative thoughts drain your energy but they also block your development. What you think about – where your focus is – is crucial to your success in life, and in business.

“Let us be grateful to people who make us happy;
they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.”

– Marcel Proust

It is so easy to take the people closest to us for granted, yet they are the ones that makes life extra meaningful. Tell the ones you love how much they mean to you – and then show it in your actions.

“Give me six hours to chop down a tree and I will spend the first four sharpening the axe.”
– Abraham Lincoln

Many roads may go to Rome but there’s only one foolproof road to success – preparation. There are no shortcuts.

“It’s amazing what you can accomplish when you don’t care who gets the credit.”
– Harry S. Truman

If you want to be truly successful, drop your Ego and live from your heart. Be supportive and encouraging of other peoples achievements. What goes around comes around. Besides, do you want the acknowledgement of being successful or do you want to be (genuinely feel) successful?

“There’s no ‘ifs’ amongst believers. Anything can happen.”
– Jesus

Whatever you perceive you will achieve. There are no boundaries, no limits at all, to what you can create in your life. Anything is possible!

“The greatness of a nation and its moral progress can be judged by the way its animals are treated.”
– Gandhi

The way we treat other beings says a lot about our true essence – more so than any external showcases of practicing religion. What you sow, you shall reap – that’s just the way it works.

“When eating a fruit, think of the person who planted the tree.”
– Vietnamese proverb

Remember that everything that you have in your life – and I know that you have a lot – you have simply because of someone else’s efforts and hard work. Acknowledge and be grateful for what’s in your life, be it things or beings.

“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.”
– Aristotle

If you don’t know your true self, how can you genuinely know someone else? It’s first when you know your deepest desires and dreams, that you can take the next step in achieving them.

“When we have nothing left but God, we discover that God is enough.”
– Unknown

There are many people who at some point in their lives got themselves into a situation where they ended up with absolutely nothing. I am one of them. It was through that situation though, that I – by the grace of God – managed to rise from the ashes like a phoenix. And it was with the comfort, security and knowledge that God is always within me and God is enough, that I moved forward with such success that I created a life beyond what I thought was possible. With God, all things are possible.

“The struggle ends when gratitude begins.”
– Neale Donald Walsch

Be grateful for what you have as opposed to focus on what you have not. Make a list of everything in your life that you are grateful for – don’t leave anything out. If you at any time still feel like you don’t have anything to be grateful for, take a look at that list. Show Gratitude for what you have, no matter how little, and God will provide you with more to be grateful for.

Do you have any favorite quote of your own? I’d love to know about them! Send me an email to gustolifegroup[at]gmail[dot]com and I might include them in a future post as your personal favorite quote (if you consent).

Concious choices

Most people in this world do not make conscious choices. With that I mean that we do not choose our thoughts nor the feelings or emotions that we are creating. Most of the times we do not even choose our behavior. We do not think about what energy or content of consciousness that wegreatness allow into our conscious mind and – as a result – by that what we allow to remain in our subconscious mind.

In order for us to remain in a state of always making “conscious choices” with regards to every thought, feeling, word, energy and deed, we must first learn the art of self-mastery.  And how do we do that? By learning how to detach – as in disidentify – ourselves. You see, if you are identifying yourself with certain thoughts, feelings, things, etc. you – by doing that – hinder yourself from having the ability to choose.

Now, detaching isn’t all that easy, I know that. Facts are, if you for example instantly react instead of choosing how to respond to the actions of someone else you make yourself a victim. Do you see what I mean? Feelings are a choice – they don’t just suddenly happen to us. They are built up from something – deeply buried inside of you and likely from a (sub)conscious fear you have – and if you do not meet these feelings and detach yourself from them you’ll get stuck.

Remember that our fears comes from love, they are two different sides of the same coin. The only way to dissolve them is to challenge them straight on, regardless if it’s a fear of losing someone, fear of doing something or fear of seeing and being your authentic Self.

imageschoiceWe cannot always control what comes into our life but we do have free choice as to the attitude and perspective we take towards it. Ask yourself, do I want the Spirit or my negative Ego to guide my actions? Do I want love or fear? Do I want oneness or separation?

As I said before, this isn’t always easy – we are humans severely affected by the impact of society – and you will make mistakes that you’ll regret deeply. However if (or when) you do choose wrongly, or do not choose at all at some times, learn the lesson God has given you, forgive yourself – and apologize to anyone that might have been affected by your choice – and make a new choice!

When you have mastered the blessing of free choice you will be in perfect harmony with God because what opens your divine consciousness – the connection with God – is the development and refinement of your spiritual journey.

I will still love you even if you are not perfect. I will still love you even if you’re not always the kind of person I wished you were? I will still look into your eyes with warmth even if I’ve seen your shadows. I will still hold your hand even if I know there will be times you’ll let me down. I will still do everything to ensure your happiness even if you do nothing – because I love you.” – unknown

Are your thoughts serving you for the better?

karma-act-samskYou are what you think. Sounds strange? Well it’s not. Not at all in fact. Our thoughts acts like a boomerang as what goes out there – what you are sending out – is what will come back to you.

I was first introduced to the law of attraction many of years ago and, more thinking of it as a sort of self-improvement concept, I didn’t pay much attention to it. However, some years after my first introduction I was once again faced with a believer of the Law which led me to start analyse the events in my life and the circumstances surrounding them as well as the thoughts I had at the time. And I realized there may be some truth to it all. It’s similar to the wheel of cause and effect (Karma) and this I am a true believer in and follower of.

So what is the Law of attraction? The Wikipedia defines is as “…[…] a metaphysical New Thought belief that “like attract like”, that positive and negative thinking bring about positive and negative physical results, respectively.” The principles of the law of attraction has been interpreted in various ways, all equally interesting to take part of for those whom like myself are curious about the different faiths and teachings that find their way to so many souls across the globe.

“He is greatest whose strength carries up the most hearts by the attraction of his own” – Henry Beecher

You are what you are thinking. Yes. It’s simple. Some people choose to see the goodness in others – to the point of being naïve at times – while others choose to see the worst in some people – to the point of being paranoid at times. In any case, ones choice of view very obviously tells more of what kind of individual YOU are – as in what YOUR thoughts, hopes and, maybe most of all, fears are – not that of the person or that person’s actions whom you are judging as “good” or “bad”.

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