“10 Biblical Rules For A Happy Marriage”…or just “common sense when You truly love and care for your spouse and not just your Ego”.

I am amazingly blessed! Yes, I am and I’m not covering it up or being modest about it. On the contrary, I rejoice in God’s Gift to me and in the fact that I am one of those incredibly (few) tumblr_m72dg6dnE41qg89yfo1_500blessed women who are married to a man who’s not only capable of but also willing to be a Man without interference by his Ego. I am talking about a man who’s such Soulful Spiritual Being that he – for most parts (he IS human after all…although sometimes I wonder…) – puts aside all things Egotistical for the Greater Good of Our Relationship, and for Me. Together we are on a Spiritual Journey, always learning and always growing – individually and together.

A fantastic loving and trustful relationship isn’t something that just happen though – it takes passion, compassion, a desire to (re)learn, genuine love and respect for one another, the ability to forgive and forget and probably most of all, honest and respectful COMMUNICATION.

1. Never bring up mistakes of the past. Stop criticizing others or it will come back on you. If you forgive others, you will be forgiven. – Luke 6:37

2. Neglect the whole world rather than each other. And how do you benefit if you gain the whole world but lose your own soul in the process? – Mark 8:36

a08e6fb903730a630fc009511935c5973. Never go to sleep with an argument unsettled. And don’t sin by letting anger gain control over you. Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry. – Ephesians 4:26

4. At least once a day, try to say something complimentary to your spouse. Gentle words bring life and health; a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit. – Proverbs 15:4

5. Never meet without an affectionate welcome. Kiss me again and  again, your love is sweeter than wine. – Song of Solomon 1:2

6. “For richer or poorer” – rejoice in every moment that God has given you together. A bowl of soup with someone you love is better than steak with someone you hate. – Proverbs 15:17

7. If you have a choice between making yourself or your mate look good, choose your mate. Do not withhold good from those who deserve it when it’s in your power to help them. – Proverbs 3:27

8. If they’re breathing, your mate will eventually offend you. Learn to forgive. I am warning you, if another believer sins, rebuke him; then if he repents, forgive him. Even if he wrongs you seven times a day and each time turns again and asks forgiveness, forgive him. – Luke 17:3,4

9. Don’t use faith, the Bible, or God as a hammer. God did not send His Son into the world to condemn it, but to save it. – John 3:17

10. Let love be your guidepost. Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. Love does not demand its own way. Love is not irritable and it keeps no record of when it has been wronged. – 1 Corinthians 13:4-5

I am a lover of books…

…as reading is one of my favourite past times. I’m probably a bit “boring” though as I never read any fiction but only books related to my professional or spiritual growth, including the Bible which actually falls into not only one but both of those two categories! Most of the times I find books that combine the two categories, probably because I’m a strong believer that if one grows spiritually one also grows as a leader. And the other way around.

One of the three books I’m currently reading is about critical values that will change the way we lead and succeed. This is a book about leadership but the subject discussed are some of the very same subjects which I see as part of this new leadership paradigm that we have enter, a paradigm that’s all about the people and not the leader – about “them/You” and not “me/I”. In the book 25 value-inspired leaders talk about the way they lead and it’s truly inspirational to take part of – mainly because I so much agree with their leadership , and life, approach. I can so much relate to the words of Dipak Jain when he says that:

I don’t go through life saying I want to achieve this, I want to be here, or I want to be there. I have a very simple rule: whatever is given to me, I do it in the best possible manner. Let others be the judge if they want to put me in a particular place. Because once you keep doing things with your whole conscience and with your full effort rewards will be there. So, my mission in life is very simple. I am not a person who believes in too much materialism.”

To me this states such healthy view of life, or “success” if one would prefer to talk about that. It’s a statement on how we as humans, as society, really need to re-examine the central core within our own personal life – we need to look at ourselves and ask if we are selfish or selfless. What’s our primary motivation in life? Is it to achieve material things? Is it to control people around us? Or is it, as it should be in my point of view, to be serving, helping and inspiring others to bring out their strengths and talents? Is it about supporting others to be “successful”? True “success” to me is not achieved by superficial material gain but by spiritual growth achieved by being a devoted child of God.

What’s Your thoughts on this – what’s Your definition of “success”?