Friday’s Wisdom: Awareness

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Saturday’s Wisdom: Swedish Communication

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Lead from heart to mind

Great leaders serve as a catalyst for bringing people togetheristock-radiant-sun to focus and channel their creative efforts towards improving their productivity in their organization. The ability to do this, to act as this catalyst that people actually choose to listen to and follow, isn’t something that great leaders are born with. Sure, one can of course be born with certain specific characteristics that are specifically suitable for leadership. And some of those characteristics need to exist in order for an individual to be a true leader – one that others want to and choose to follow – such as the ability to listen to others, to make people feel and know that they are recognized and appreciated for their efforts and contributions, to lift people’s spirits up instead of dragging them down, among other valuable and necessary qualities.

Great leaders have the ability to lead from their heart and with their wisdom as the essence for their leadership. They lead and live from heart to mind, not from mind achievementsto heart. To lead and live with our wisdom as our own personal guiding light is to be living a fulfilled life. It is what our core values in combination with our experience, knowledge and intelligence brings us. Our core values support us in getting to know ourselves and others, as well as in discovering what we find valuable and important. It’s in knowing and living according to our own values that we find life rich and purposeful.

It is also in knowing and living your core values that you will set a solid foundation for becoming a great(er) leader. By knowing who you are and what you stand for on all four dimensions that our human nature withholds, you will at any time be (capable of) feeling a sense of joy, compassion, balance and focus – as a human being and thereby also as a leader. This will surely be positively noticed and appreciated by the people around you. This is what makes a leader charismatic.

Great leaders are always open to new insights. They are aware of the importance of discovering new ideas as foundation for growthimagesCAHEZEUG in all areas of life. Great leaders view life as a continuous journey of development and consider every experience as a possibility to learn something new. They are curious, observant, eager to try and to learn. They want to share their experiences with others and generously do so. Great leaders share of themselves, openly and vulnerable from their hearts – they use their wisdom to share of their truth. This is their greatest strength as such view of life, and of development, also inspires and encourage the individuals around them to implement the same positive approach to professional, and sometimes even personal, growth. Great leaders inspire people to become the best they can be.

“Let your light shine. Be a source of strength and courage. Share your wisdom. Radiate love.” – Wilferd Peterson

Great leaders value and take time for reflection as this is an important part of ones growth journey. Take some time to reflect on and answer the following questions.

What are the two or three most important things that motivate you?
What values are the two or three most important ones for you – the ones that you feel brings you a deep sense of satisfaction, joy and happiness?
What are the things that you current feel brings you the feeling of great satisfaction in the a) physical, b) social, c) mental and d) spiritual dimensions of your life?

A wise person knows that perception…

imagesCA0416D2…shapes everything that happens in life. And perception is a matter of choice. Indeed, it’s a blessing to be able to choose how personal experiences and the world at large are viewed. As a result, we can choose to see peace, rather than conflict; love, rather than fear; abundance, rather than lack; and we can to see a divine plan, instead of random chaos. Abraham Lincoln is credited with wisely saying: “Most of us are just as happy as we make up our minds to be.” So very true.

“A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.” – Winston Churchill

Choose happiness and you will be happy. Choose to see the best in your team and they will be inspired by it. Choose to see other beings as fellow spiritual travellers and they will feel encouraged. Choose to see your employees as team members and they will fight for victory. It is truly amazing how fantastic and simple life really is. Don’t make it complicated – it’s so very easy.

It’s not personal

Each of us comes into this world with a particular mission, written within our souls. I have myimages own mission as you have yours. We might cross paths as our individual missions in one way or another may interact with eachother’s – however each and every single one of us will still be alone on our own spiritual journey in order to fulfill our own particular mission. And we all have our lessons to learn…our experiences and wisdom to gain. This means that we once or a couple of times in life say or do things that aren’t in the best of interest for our own spiritual growth nor for anyone else – it is however a step that needs to be taken on our journey as we mature and, like a baby taking it’s first steps, are navigating and trying to master something that is so much greater than ourselves. So don’t take anything anyone else’s doing personally as it is not you who are the Star of their show, it is themselves.

If you manage to master this blessing you’ll be able to share of your love imagesCAGT5V9Qbut still not be a target for someone elses harmful words or actions. You won’t need to put your trust in what other people do or say as you will not be affected by it – each and everyone must owe up to take responsibility for their own reality. You can choose to follow your heart always no matter what as no one will be able to harm you – enabling you to focus on how to share of your greatest gift, love.

If being faced with feelings of hurt, instead of choosing any of the “easier” options like feeling sorry for yourself, “paying back” or feeling resentment towards the one who “caused” you pain – in fact inflicted pain on him or herself – ask yourself “How am I going to grow from this? How can I use this to make me my most Divine self? What can I now contribute that I couldn’t have if I had never had this experience?” Embrace the experience – I know it ain’t easy every time but try –, vision the greater Divine picture and learn from it. Always remember, it really really isn’t personal!

 

Quantum life and leadership

Like many others I enrich my life with great, challenging, fun and sometimes mind-blowing activities and experiences that in some way(s) or another(s) moves me further on my personal and professional journey. However, as we know it is not enough to simply gain theoretical knowledge about something or experience it at infrequent times but our newly received wisdom also need to be practised to be put into full effect. Last night I read this short article “Live a quantum life” by Dr. Darren R. Weissman on the subject and I’d like to share it with you as inspiration on your very own path!

“How do you live a quantum life? I believe there are five steps. In the science and art of numerology, the number 5 signifies being open to love; living with compassion; embracing freedom; needing constant change; and striving to find answers to the many questions that life poses, not just for ourselves but also for all of humanity. To live a quantum life, it’s imperative to do the following:

1. Live with vision. All great leaders throughout history have had a clear vision of a truth that resonated deep wvisionithin their hearts. This vision became the catalyst that set into motion a new way of thinking, feeling, and being. All great leaders, as a result, maintain their clarity of vision regardless of opposition or perceived capabilities. To live with vision means to take the time to silence the mind so that you can see and embrace your truth. Activate the power of the sixth sense—intuition—and trust it to guide you.

2. Live with hope. Hope is a natural consequence of having clear vision. Its birth rises from darkness, fueled with the vision of promise. At its core, hope allows you to believe in what’s possible…if one person can, we all can. Feel this emotion in your heart. It’s the feeling that imagines, sees, and knows at every juncture of the journey. Hope is the reflection of truth, wholeness, divinity, and oneness. “Roll up your sleeves” and let’s work together. In a world where many see hopelessness as being as normal as the rising sun, begin today to challenge yourself to harvest and sow seeds of hope.

Passion3. Live with passion. Passion is the energy of your will. It’s what empowers you to take action, transforming hope into possibilities. The question is, what’s your passion? What moves you to get out of bed every day? What makes your heart flutter when you think about it? Do you go to work just to get paid? Do you want to know how to live with passion? Answer this question: What would you be doing at this very moment in your life if you knew with absolute certainty that you couldn’t fail? Allow yourself to honestly and authentically answer this question—from the deepest part of your heart—acknowledging the every-unfolding inner voice of Infinite Love & Gratitude. Decide to act and live with passion. A moment of passion will transform a breaking point into one that is inspirational.

4. Live with discipline. Discipline distinguishes mastery from mediocrity—mastery that comes from spending time engaged in the journey, rather than sprinting the 50-yard dash. Living with discipline means being willing to change—to alter oltacksamhetd patterns of how you consciously choose to respond to your life. With discipline, you can gain insight and wisdom into your true nature. When you accept the inevitability of change, you choose healthier options for yourself.1 Rather than being a rigid set of rules, living with discipline is based on conscious acts of self-love. It’s loving yourself enough to choose between the pleasures of the moment and the possibilities of an infinite spirit.

5. Live with gratitude. These days, almost everyone is talking about gratitude. But what does it really mean? I was inspired by a quote I recently read in a tiny but powerful book on gratitude written on behalf of the LifeLesson Foundation by Lenore Skomal:

‘Our role is to accept what happens to us and to do what we can with the possibilities that life offers us. Acceptance is the key to this. If we can stop trying to figure out what we did wrong to warrant the problems that we face, and just accept it as part of what happens while living on this planet, we can find immense freedom. Life is what it is. And if we can reach unconditional acceptance of that, then the door to true gratitude will open. To live with gratitude is to accept, embrace, forgive, learn, and live with the knowing that life itself is the greatest of all gifts’.”

Faith or foolishness?

Is it possible to have too much faith? To be too courageous? Where does the line go between being very courageous and being plain foolish? And what defines foolishness?

A very brave friend of mine arplan lifee about to embark on a adventurous and most likely life-changing journey.  This journey has been planned for quite some time, with careful considerations to all that might or might not happen, or develop, as a result of it. However, what was by him before thought of as a pretty normal event with all that naturally happens in the course of a relationship – yes, we are talking about a lovers situation here – this “journey” has turned into a drama of its own and the events now unfolded  as led him to reflect great deal on the subjects of having faith, being courageous or being plain foolish.

Not long ago his plans seemed like a great idea. As a matter of fact he felt that it seemed as an incredible, fun, exciting and amazing opportunity. A blessing from the Divine that could lead him to fantastic never-before-experienced things and to a life with the woman of his dreams. However, by unseemed actions – at least for him – things have surfaced that indicates that this “fun, exciting and amazing opportunity” that he expected might not happen the way he planned it to. My question, does it ever?

“Although individuals around me smile and tell me – or my loved ones remind me – of how ‘courageous’ I (supposedly) am, so often daring to do what many wouldn’t, their words of encouragement is not working on me this time. In fact, I do not feel courageous at all….I feel totally lost.”

My friend explained to me how he’d felt about this change in course – expressing feelings of confusion, discouragement and more importantly a sense of being lost. He’d even questioned his courage – wondering if he had not just been plain foolish and blind, not courageous.

tumblr_ms8u1cjo0v1rtqolxo1_1280To me courage is daring to follow your heart’s desire, the path of your soul and having faith in that everything will work out to the best – in a greater perspective. Courage is what makes people go against the mainstream and follow their inner voice – or the guidance of the Divine source – in order to grow spiritually. Courage is what makes us take a huge leap of faith and follow our hearts desire when meeting the (wo)man of our dreams in order to pursue our relationship – even if, as my friend and his lover, you are living in different parts of the world. Courage is what makes us try new or different things, or walk on to unknown paths, although feeling afraid, just to be able to grow in one way or another. Courage is to be truly scared but still move ahead.

It makes me think about what some individuals are prepared to in order to fulfill their deepest dreams! Their courage, strength and faith is beautiful and it warms my heart simply thinking about it! Especially when they are determined to turn something that can be perceived as a “tough situation” into a golden moment of opportunity. I love that!

“The optimist refuses to believe that the road ends without options” – Robert H. Schuller.

One thing is clear to me though. Although we’re told by society that we are frail and powerless beings who live in a world where things just “happen” for no apparent reason, I am confident that our existence – as our most ancient and cherished spiritual traditions tell us – is based on a Divine force that lives within each and every one of us. A power that nothing in the world can touch. And for my friend there’s some – to him at this point unknown and unforeseeable – reason he’s supposed to do this. All the signs still points him towards it. Yes, there’s no denying that his situation has gone from a being “a prospective wonderful amazing God-given opportunity to a life in total bliss” (his words) to a complete turnaround into a somewhat frightening and lonely road.

6My friend is still guided to go through with it. And with restored faith in great things ahead, he surely will. It’s not going to be the way he wished or planned for, that’s clear. But with the determination to make the best he can out of the current situation, I am absolutely convinced he’ll experience a journey beyond his imagination. In other words, better than anything he ever could have planned. I know from my own experiences that it is only by the courageous leaps I’ve taken that I’ve gotten to not only encounter the most amazing individuals, but also experience truly fascinating spiritual journeys. Having faith and leaving the rest in God’s hands, that is the most courageous thing you can do.

The things that are going on right now in my friends life right now makes me think of the words of Gibran who in his classic book “The Prophet” reminds us of what it means to have a great gift and to know that it’s power is already within us. Gibran writes that “no man can reveal to you aught but that which already lies half asleep in the dawning of your knowledge.” In other words, we can’t be taught what we don’t already know as we came into the world already knowing how to use our beliefs and I find that to be so very true. We ourselves have the power to rewrite our own code of reality. It’s just a matter of choice of how we want our life to be! Isn’t that an amazing blessing from the Divine?! I truly think so!

Gibran’s thought aren’t something new – in fact, his book was published in the beginning of the 19th century. The same subject has been explored by many mystics in the past. The ancient Sufi poet Jalal ad-Din ar-Rumi describes the irony of our mysterious condition in this world by stating that “what strange beings we are that sitting in hell at the bottom of the dark, we’re afraid of our own immortality.” Rumi, as well as many other ancient philosophers, explored the promise of surviving the darkest moments of life and the reassurance that difficult times are only a part of a journey that leads to a place where bad things can’t happen any longer as they reflected on “the deepest mysteries of life”. Just as these fascinating individuals, I myself do not believe that we are fragile victims of events that are beyond our control but that we are powerful creators of our own life – if we choose to be! Which leads me back to the beginning…not knowing anything yet knowing it all I could not but encourage my friend to embark on this fascinating, scary and divine journey with faith that it’ll lead to all that he want it to – the fulfillment of his soul’s desire as ones know it.

Through the godlike power of human belief, we are given the equally divine ability to bring what we believe to life in the matrix of energy that bathes and surrounds us.”

Life: Path to happiness

Many people, including myself from time to time, feel that as global citizens we are over-stimulated on so many levels. This over-stimulation has led us to a point where it at times seems that we have lost the ability to pursue one thing at the time, out of fear that we’ll somehow miss out on all the others. It also has led us to lose our connection with our inner voice. Sometimes to such a degree that we forget to saviour the blessings God has provided us with.

The silence of ones inner voice – or purpose, if you’d prefer – is without doubt one of the main reason that the people I’ve been working with have experienced some or many parts of their life as a struggle. A tough, many times seemingly never-ending, struggle for “something else” or “everything”, be it greater “success”, that promotion, a job,  another job, the perfect partner, more money, a house, a bigger house, a more expensive car or even two, preferably more material things or anything else that in one way or another provides a (false) sense of being “good enough” or “successful” – more admiration, or even better, envy from others. More, more and more stimulation or anything that can satisfy ones Ego in its search for validation, short-term gratification and external recognition. Mostly at any price.

Yet there’s still a feeling of not being good enough – a sense of emptiness – and/or a void within. A void that not even the deepest precious love from our nearest and dearest can fill. A void that seem be always present – hence the feeling of never-ending struggle. Lack of happiness. And as a “problem-solver”, instead of looking at their selves some individuals instead express themselves as victims. OthersimagesC even put blame on their loved one(s) for “not providing” that which they feels their loved one(s) in fact should be providing – the picture-perfect relationship and/or family – without acknowledging that it takes two to tango or simply understanding that two half individuals can not and should not become one whole. For some people this widely spread denial of ones own responsibility for ones own life, choices and happiness have caused them to stir up emotions, relationships and even families because they were “unhappy” and someone (else) should’ve fixed it. As humans we want and need to feel authentic, to contribute, to experience and to give more love, wanting to ‘do what I came here to do’ and yet instead of doing and becoming this with our loved one(s) close to us – embarking on the journey together – we go separate ways. And continue to look for that “perfect partner” and/or “new family” whom will “make” us happy…and the next one…

What we need to do is to stop moving forward like a run-away train and start looking inside of ourselves to ask ourselves some important questions. It is only by doing so we can take our first steps along the path of our true destiny and purpose – towards total happiness. One needs to connect with one’s heart and to honor one’s soul’s deepest yearnings and not just follow the “regular”, “normal” and socially accepted path and, by that, simply take what you get. And then you make your choices and take proper action – based on honest (to yourself), compassionate, loving and wise grounds.  It’s all worth it, which is something that many people whom already are happily engaged on their own fulfilling path – contributing to the lives of others, waking up each day happy to be alive and bursting with a sense of purpose and deep personal satisfaction – will vouch for. I’ve been blessed to follow many of my clients on their journeys, sometimes even from their momenmeditatingts of shifting gear into a new exiting path. It is truly a wonderful experience and blessing – every single time – when an individual come to discover that all his/hers answers are found within. Answers that simply might have been long-buried under feelings of self-doubt, confusion, over-thinking, other people’s expectations or perhaps even all the above.

So, how do you reach this inner knowledge? How to you truly get to know yourself and that which will bring you true happiness? This is where meditation steps in. For you, as for many others, meditation can be the key to discovering what you are “all about”.  your greater Purpose. Meditation, with a consistent repetition, is a wonderful “tool” of learning that surely can take you from where you are today to significant spiritual, emotional and intuitive growth. Meditation not only allows us to connect with our divine consciousness – and thereby gain access to wisdom that resides beyond the reach of our everyday consciousness – but it also provides for invaluable insights about oneself and the nature of ones own purpose.

By practising meditation – and prayer, if one wants to separate them (I read somewhere that what separates themImage1 is that “in prayer You are asking God the questions and in meditation He is providing you with the answers”) – we somehow can familiarise ourselves with our true nature and gain a deeper awareness of ourselves. Finding ourselves means learning to observe ourselves, our lives and the evidence they present to us about who, or what, we are. It does require though that we are transparent to ourselves, in other words that we are being honest, non-judgemental and loving towards ourselves regardless of what we “find”. And eventually, as you begin to master your spiritual growth and go along through this journey I am confident you’ll eventually find that you begin to practise the same approach to other people.

Meditation really is a path to greater self-awareness. And it’s simple. Listening is the key – and trusting, knowing and allowing are the doors it opens. Remember, it’s never ever too late to begin again and you’re never too old to start living your life on your own terms. We are all God’s children, just beginning to take our first tentative steps. And if you’ve been struggling be thankful that this struggle has led you to meditation because meditation will lead you to happiness.

…blessed encounters ♥

Yesterday a loved one of mine shared a recording with me, featuring the talented Jack Kornfield who was talking about relationships. Listening to his wisdom got me thinking about how in fact each and every being that we encounter in our personal and professional lives are a blessed such.

blessingMr Kornfield discussed the different kinds of relationships we have in our lives and the different way they help us to evolve on our spiritual journey. I was fascinated to hear his definition on what he believes is needed in order for a love relationship to be one that helps the two parties involved grow in all areas and not only as a couple but also individually. I most definitely agree with his point of view – and his definition on a truly successful relationship – as I am a strong believer of that the individuals we encounter on our life’s road are sent our way for a specific reason, to in one way or another give us the opportunity to further spiritual growth.

Sometimes we sadly are too occupied with other things to even notice these spiritual teachers and other times we simply recognize them at once. Some of these individuals make a huge impact on our heart and soul and therefore stay in our life for a long period time – maybe even until we pass away, or pass on – while others only crosses our path very briefly. With some of these individuals we may find a friendship attraction and with others a romantic attraction. With some the attraction might be a sexual one and yet with others it may solely be a spiritual one.

happy togetherHowever, once or a few more times in our lifetime we encounter an individual with whom we find an attraction that reaches over all of the four mentioned areas. An attraction that brings with it a close and loving relationship that deepens the friendship as well as the individuals romance and sexual experiences together – their intimacy – as they evolve and explore their spiritual connection as a couple and individually.

It’s always a beautiful encounter when both parties recognize the divine opportunity given and are not only willing but also eager to explore all aspects of life together – each open to individual spiritual lessons and knowledge but always shared with one another. Soulmates maybe? …crossing eachothers path in one lifetime to another? Well, who knows but our God. A blessing it is however as such a intimate and spiritually growing relationship with another human being truly is the most precious gift there is and such a divine gift from our Lord is to be carefully and tenderly cherished…not to prove ourselves presently unworthy of such a gift. God´s grace is good♥

“When you truly find love, you find yourself. Therefore the path to love isn’t a choice, for all of us must find out who we are. This is our spiritual destiny. The path can be postponed; you can lose faith in it or even despair that love exists at all. None of that is permanent; only the path is. Doubt reflects the ego, which is bound in time and space; love reflects God, eternal divine essence. The ultimate promise on the path to love is that you will walk in the light of a truth extending beyond any truth your mind presently knows. Love never forces. Love is intelligent and brings only what you need. Love can heal. Love can renew. Love can make us safe. Love can inspire us with its power. Love can bring us closer to God.” – Deepak Chopra

Pure Joy: Conquer Your Fears

Courage is all about being afraid but acting anyway. It is taking a huge leap of faith and act towards something or someone although being afraid. It is listening to God´s voice -which always guides you towards personal growth and true love and not against it – although relatives, friends or others around you advise against it, for whatever expressed purpose. It is trusting yourself and the knowledge you have that God has sent this thing, opportunity, individual etc your way for a very specific positive reason. Courage is taking calculatcourageed risks and realising that in the end you have so much more to gain than to loose. It is being able “at any moment to sacrifice what we are for what we could become” as put by Charles DuBois. Always. Think about it.

Imagine if a fearless spirit took over your body, and used your brain and skills and knowledge. Because this spirit wouldn´t identify with those fearful thoughts that you have as its own, it wouldn´t act accordingly, it would hear them but dismiss them as unimportant. Do you think such a spirit could do or would do things different than you? Well, some may still say that we do need to consider what might go wrong so we won´t make mistakes. Yes, it is logical to think like that. I used to do that myself for a very long time. I brought my professional assignment of analysing and preparing for “the worst case scenario” into my personal life, doing the same thing. At times it was very useful as it felt reassuring to have had covered “the worst thing that could happen” and know that no matter what, I had it all under control – or so I thought. Picturing a “worst case scenario” can be a good thing though if used appropriate. I do not know of anyone who actually have manage to do that however. I sure didn´t manage to use it appropriate myself, which led me to experience lack of control over all things that I wished I would have had control over. I only caused myself to experience more stress. However, very grateful for all the lessons learned, I have since come to terms with that with a strong sense of courage – based on a deep trust in that everything works out accordingly to the bigger purpose, my life’s purpose or God’s plan for me – I do not need to be afraid. What a relief!

i-have-learnedBy being courageous life feels so much easier and fun! By putting our trust in God, knowing that if we just realise and are  appreciative of what or who He sends our way, everything will work out positively as it is meant to be. I’m not saying of course that you should be careless or take the type of risks that could have a negative effect on others or yourself, at least not without everyone included actually agreeing to it. There is however a huge difference between having fearful thoughts that hinder your evolution – your growth as a human being – and the thoughts you have when you in fact have to deal with something that has happened. Let go of all anxiety as you really don’t need it in order to see danger or to take precautions. Your fearful thoughts doesn’t protect you from making mistakes. They do nothing but discourage you. And God doesn´t discourage. God offers guidance, support and courage. God is good and wants nothing but goodness for you.

By being courageous enough to explore whatever He has sent your way I’m absolutely sure that you’ll feel awarded for it. After all, what’s the worst thing that could happen? …you see! Now think about the best thing that could happen and you’ll realize that you do not have anything to be afraid of but everything to gain. Have faith in what or whom God has send you and it’ll all work out for the best! One of my favourite quotes are “courage is not the absence of fear but rather the judgement that something else is more important than feIMG_4786ar”. If you think about that you’ll see that there is so much you can and should do, it could be anything from travelling to unknown places, meeting new people whom might be strangers but can turn out to become your best friends, taking that professional  course which might be the first step to an new exciting career or by giving that specifik person an second chance and be blessed with an soulmate.

In other words, have faith in what or whoever God sends your way, be courageous to explore the possibilities of what can be and it’ll all work out for the best! Dare to take a huge leap of faith in yourself and in the Divine – you surely will find gold at the end of the rainbow. I know this for a fact! I’ve done it more times than I can count and no matter what I experienced along the way, it’s always been and still am worth it in the end. Pure Joy and Happiness ♥