Improve your transparency skills with these easy tips

house-wall-113541_1280The skills of being transparent is the key to developing authentic relationships with your team – and with other people. Being transparent is about sincerity, honesty, grace and composure.

Transparent leaders are authentic and respected. They are true to themselves and know their team members well. They share of their knowledge and information, instilling trust and understanding amongst their associates.

Here are some easy tips on being transparent:

– Own up to mistakes.
The act of owning up to a mistake demonstrates humility and a genuine desire to do the right thing.

– Responsibility share true opinions and emotions.
Be responsible for the manner in which you share your opinions with others. For example, express your concern but without contempt.

– Ask for feedback on your own performance.
Ask those who you respect for feedback and accept it with an open mind.

– Communicate both good and bad news.
Do not sugarcoat bad news to make it sound better and don’t downplay good news. Simply tell the truth with a touch of compassion when necessary.

– Create meaningful connections with your team.
Don’t force an unnatural or uncomfortable bond with your employees. Instead, go out of your way to get to know each person on a real level.

How do you practice transparency in your organization and your life? Is there something you can do to improve even further and if so, in what way?

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Trusting what is – Patience

One of the  greatest thing I’ve had to work with, for myself, has been patience. I have always been a very impatient person – even when it did not serve me well.

Courageous individuals – leaders – trust. They trust that everything’s exactly as it is supposed to be – they let go. They do not try to control things, events or people. Nor do they force their own ways – swim upstream. They go with the flow – with trust – and find pleasure in it. Trust lies at the core of all our relationships – without, theres is no foundation for growth.

“It’s fine to want things to happen in a proper and timely way. But what if you need to hang in there for several months in your current job before you can move on to a better one.  Now what?

Patience means handling delay, difficulty, or discomfort without getting aggravated. Circumstances are what they are, but patience protects you from their impact like a shock absorber. In contrast, impatience interprets circumstances as you being hindered or mistreated, so you feel frustrated, let down, or annoyed. imagesO6B4MEWVThen insistence comes in: “This must change!” But by definition you can’t fulfill that commandment (otherwise, there’d be nothing to get impatient about). Impatience combines all three ingredients of toxic stress: unpleasant experiences, pressure or urgency, and lack of control.

Impatience with others contains implicit criticism and irritation – and people want to get away from both of these. Just recall how you feel when someone is impatient with you. Or consider how others react when you are impatient with them. Impatience is dissatisfaction; it is resistance to the way it is. Patience senses a fundamental alrightness, the doorway to contentment. Impatience is angry; patience is peaceful. Impatience narrows down onto what’s “wrong,” while patience keeps you wide open to the big picture.

Impatience can’t stand unpleasant feelings; patience helps you tolerate physical and emotional discomfort. Impatience wants rewards now; patience helps you tolerate delayed gratification, which fosters increased success and sense of worth. Patience may seem like a superficial virtue, but actually it embodies a deep insight into the nature of things: they’re intertwining, messy, imperfectible, and usually not about you. Patience also contains a wonderful teaching about desire: wish for something, sure, but be at peace when you can’t have it. Patience knows you can’t make the river flow any faster.

“When you are tempted to lose patience with someone, remember how patient God is with you – all the time.”

Friday’s Wisdom: Awareness

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Saturday’s Wisdom: Swedish Communication

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Friday’s Wisdom: True Leadership

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Tuesday’s Wisdom: It’s Not About You

Leadership is not about You. Your special talents and gifts are not about You. Your Life is not about You nor is it for You. Your life and your purpose is to be serving other beings – sharing of all your talents – for a greater good. It’s all about service.

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Saturday’s Wisdom: Be True To Yourself

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Lead from heart to mind

Great leaders serve as a catalyst for bringing people togetheristock-radiant-sun to focus and channel their creative efforts towards improving their productivity in their organization. The ability to do this, to act as this catalyst that people actually choose to listen to and follow, isn’t something that great leaders are born with. Sure, one can of course be born with certain specific characteristics that are specifically suitable for leadership. And some of those characteristics need to exist in order for an individual to be a true leader – one that others want to and choose to follow – such as the ability to listen to others, to make people feel and know that they are recognized and appreciated for their efforts and contributions, to lift people’s spirits up instead of dragging them down, among other valuable and necessary qualities.

Great leaders have the ability to lead from their heart and with their wisdom as the essence for their leadership. They lead and live from heart to mind, not from mind achievementsto heart. To lead and live with our wisdom as our own personal guiding light is to be living a fulfilled life. It is what our core values in combination with our experience, knowledge and intelligence brings us. Our core values support us in getting to know ourselves and others, as well as in discovering what we find valuable and important. It’s in knowing and living according to our own values that we find life rich and purposeful.

It is also in knowing and living your core values that you will set a solid foundation for becoming a great(er) leader. By knowing who you are and what you stand for on all four dimensions that our human nature withholds, you will at any time be (capable of) feeling a sense of joy, compassion, balance and focus – as a human being and thereby also as a leader. This will surely be positively noticed and appreciated by the people around you. This is what makes a leader charismatic.

Great leaders are always open to new insights. They are aware of the importance of discovering new ideas as foundation for growthimagesCAHEZEUG in all areas of life. Great leaders view life as a continuous journey of development and consider every experience as a possibility to learn something new. They are curious, observant, eager to try and to learn. They want to share their experiences with others and generously do so. Great leaders share of themselves, openly and vulnerable from their hearts – they use their wisdom to share of their truth. This is their greatest strength as such view of life, and of development, also inspires and encourage the individuals around them to implement the same positive approach to professional, and sometimes even personal, growth. Great leaders inspire people to become the best they can be.

“Let your light shine. Be a source of strength and courage. Share your wisdom. Radiate love.” – Wilferd Peterson

Great leaders value and take time for reflection as this is an important part of ones growth journey. Take some time to reflect on and answer the following questions.

What are the two or three most important things that motivate you?
What values are the two or three most important ones for you – the ones that you feel brings you a deep sense of satisfaction, joy and happiness?
What are the things that you current feel brings you the feeling of great satisfaction in the a) physical, b) social, c) mental and d) spiritual dimensions of your life?

A wise person knows that perception…

imagesCA0416D2…shapes everything that happens in life. And perception is a matter of choice. Indeed, it’s a blessing to be able to choose how personal experiences and the world at large are viewed. As a result, we can choose to see peace, rather than conflict; love, rather than fear; abundance, rather than lack; and we can to see a divine plan, instead of random chaos. Abraham Lincoln is credited with wisely saying: “Most of us are just as happy as we make up our minds to be.” So very true.

“A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.” – Winston Churchill

Choose happiness and you will be happy. Choose to see the best in your team and they will be inspired by it. Choose to see other beings as fellow spiritual travellers and they will feel encouraged. Choose to see your employees as team members and they will fight for victory. It is truly amazing how fantastic and simple life really is. Don’t make it complicated – it’s so very easy.

It’s not personal

Each of us comes into this world with a particular mission, written within our souls. I have myimages own mission as you have yours. We might cross paths as our individual missions in one way or another may interact with eachother’s – however each and every single one of us will still be alone on our own spiritual journey in order to fulfill our own particular mission. And we all have our lessons to learn…our experiences and wisdom to gain. This means that we once or a couple of times in life say or do things that aren’t in the best of interest for our own spiritual growth nor for anyone else – it is however a step that needs to be taken on our journey as we mature and, like a baby taking it’s first steps, are navigating and trying to master something that is so much greater than ourselves. So don’t take anything anyone else’s doing personally as it is not you who are the Star of their show, it is themselves.

If you manage to master this blessing you’ll be able to share of your love imagesCAGT5V9Qbut still not be a target for someone elses harmful words or actions. You won’t need to put your trust in what other people do or say as you will not be affected by it – each and everyone must owe up to take responsibility for their own reality. You can choose to follow your heart always no matter what as no one will be able to harm you – enabling you to focus on how to share of your greatest gift, love.

If being faced with feelings of hurt, instead of choosing any of the “easier” options like feeling sorry for yourself, “paying back” or feeling resentment towards the one who “caused” you pain – in fact inflicted pain on him or herself – ask yourself “How am I going to grow from this? How can I use this to make me my most Divine self? What can I now contribute that I couldn’t have if I had never had this experience?” Embrace the experience – I know it ain’t easy every time but try –, vision the greater Divine picture and learn from it. Always remember, it really really isn’t personal!