How to go from auto-pilot to living and leading in context

Aristotle said “We are what we repeatedly do.” The guy knew what he was talking about.

How we choose to act and what we choose to do every day, is part of what defines us as human beings – and as leaders In today´s manifesto, Linda Fisher Thornton talks about how you can go from auto-pilot to living and leading in context, simply by becoming aware of your behavior. Get inspired here What Ethical Leaders Believe

Are you ready to take your career and your leadership to the next level? There´s an exciting, rewarding and FUN way to further excel your leadership – and in the process, simplify your life. Get in touch with us here for an initial dialogue about how our successful 12-steps process can help YOU succeed too!

 

1-Minute Playbook: How To Create Great Goals

Goals StrategyHow do you make your dreams come true? You´re absolutely right, you must first have a goal-setting strategy!

Setting your life- or leadership goals is one of the most empowering, life-changing and inspirational thing you can do. Learn how to master this process as we let you know the basics needed to create great goals.

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Does having plenty of money make us happier?

girl-204327_1280We all know that money can´t buy us love. Well, at least not the real kind. But can an abundance of money make us happier?

A Princeton University study provides some scientifically backed answers to that question. Princeton´s researchers analyzed 450,000 responses to the Gallup-Healthways Well-Being Index and found that people with an annual household income of $75,000 (maybe surprisingly even in the most expensive cities in the country) are about as happy as anyone can get.

People with annual household incomes below $75,000 had lower levels of emotional wellbeing. But, those with annual household incomes above $75,000 did not show higher levels of emotional wellbeing. In other words, according to the researchers, having an annual household income of $75,000 is as good as it gets – money can buy happiness, but only up to about $75,000 a year.

If you want to learn how to create the life of your dreams – regardless of your income – then take a look at our courses and programs that we offer.

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Successful Communication: How To Master the Art of Listening

Are you a good listener? Have you ever experienced that you might have missed crucial information simply because you were not paying attention to what was being said? How do you feel when you are talking to someone and you notice that they do not listen attentively?

Successful communication consists of a yin and yang of listening and speaking. Most individuals are really good at one of them, either listening or speaking. By improving your skills in both listening and speaking you will significantly increase your capability to successfully communicate, especially in conflict situations.

“Speaking is silver, silence is gold.” – Swedish proverb

As beings, a fundamental need and desire of ours is being understood. However, in order for others to understand you, you first need to learn how to listen and understand them. In fact, when building relationships with others, the way that you listen – how – is just as important as what you have to say.

Listen to understand. If you want other people to understand you, you first need to truly listen to what they are communicating.

How you listen is key. To encourage communication and build meaningful connections, listen from other people’s perspectives. And remember, sometimes good listening is done with your eyes as well as your ears.

Learn to manage distractions. Articulate when you need to regain your focus (just say it!), jot down thoughts so that you won’t be distracted trying to remember them later, and if you are too exhausted to muster the energy to truly engage, postpone and reschedule.

Improve your listening. Give yourself credit for your current listening skills and be honest about the areas where you can improve – then set up a plan to work on those areas.

Good listening is definitely a win-win. Not only does good listening make others feel heard and understood, but it also gives you a deeper connection with people.

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7 Tips for Conflict Resolution and Key Takeaways

conversation-799448_1280Are you having a difficult time getting through to someone you’re in conflict with? You’re not alone. Communication in conflict situations can be very difficult, for several reasons.

Managing and resolving conflict requires the ability to dialogue effectively with the person or people with whom you might be in conflict. Although this may first feel like an overwhelming task, consider the following steps to help you work toward productive dialogue:

  • A successful outcome will depend on two things: how you are and what you say. How you are (centered, supportive, curious, problem-solving) will greatly influence what you say.
  • Acknowledge emotional energy – yours and theirs – and direct it towards a useful purpose.
  • Know and return to your purpose at difficult moments.
  • Don’t take verbal attacks personally. Help your opponent/partner come back to center.
  • Don’t assume they can see things from your point of view.
  • Practice the conversation with a friend before holding the real one.
  • Mentally practice the conversation. See various possibilities and visualize yourself handling them with ease. Envision the outcome you’re hoping for.

Conflicts are rarely – or never – fun but they do provide you with the opportunity for a great learning experience. And remember, having a conflict with someone is not the end of the world. On the contrary, a healthy conflict can actually bridge a relationship.

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Improve your transparency skills with these easy tips

house-wall-113541_1280The skills of being transparent is the key to developing authentic relationships with your team – and with other people. Being transparent is about sincerity, honesty, grace and composure.

Transparent leaders are authentic and respected. They are true to themselves and know their team members well. They share of their knowledge and information, instilling trust and understanding amongst their associates.

Here are some easy tips on being transparent:

– Own up to mistakes.
The act of owning up to a mistake demonstrates humility and a genuine desire to do the right thing.

– Responsibility share true opinions and emotions.
Be responsible for the manner in which you share your opinions with others. For example, express your concern but without contempt.

– Ask for feedback on your own performance.
Ask those who you respect for feedback and accept it with an open mind.

– Communicate both good and bad news.
Do not sugarcoat bad news to make it sound better and don’t downplay good news. Simply tell the truth with a touch of compassion when necessary.

– Create meaningful connections with your team.
Don’t force an unnatural or uncomfortable bond with your employees. Instead, go out of your way to get to know each person on a real level.

How do you practice transparency in your organization and your life? Is there something you can do to improve even further and if so, in what way?

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1-Minute Playbook: Your mindset is everything

ozzyA wonderful life begins with a wonderful mindset

Regardless of how it might feel sometimes, you are in control of your thoughts and your life. Your life is your own creation, be it great or not. That also means that you have the power to make it even better. One way to do that, is to shift your mindset into “gratitude-“mode.

As soon as you wake up in the morning, take a moment to think about and feel gratitude for all that you have in your life. Once you start to truly appreciate that you life is a blessing, I can assure you that it’s going to be improved even further.

What good is gratitude?

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Accessing the Power of Gratitude

The practice of gratitude as a tool for happiness has been in the mainstream for years. Long-term studies support gratitude’s effectiveness, suggesting that a positive, appreciative attitude contributes to greater success in work, greater health, peak performance in sports and business, a higher sense of wellbeing, and a faster rate of recovery from surgery.

But while we may acknowledge gratitude’s many benefits, it still can be difGratitudeficult to sustain. So many of us are trained to notice what is broken, undone or lacking in our lives. And for gratitude to meet its full healing potential in our lives, it needs to become more than just a Thanksgiving word. We have to learn a new way of looking at things, a new habit. And that can take some time.

That’s why practicing gratitude makes so much sense. When we practice giving thanks for all we have, instead of complaining about what we lack, we give ourselves the chance to see all of life as an opportunity and a blessing.

Remember that gratitude isn’t a blindly optimistic approach in which the bad things in life are whitewashed or ignored. It’s more a matter of where we put our focus and attention. Pain and injustice exist in this world, but when we focus on the gifts of life, we gain a feeling of well-being. Gratitude balances us and gives us hope.

There are many things to be grateful for: the ones in your life who really care about you and your wellbeing, the ones who don’t care about you and your well-being but through that gives you the opportunity to learn a valuable lesson, your unconditionally loving pet(s), a cozy warm jacket on a chilly winter day, your great computer, the ability to read, the free3b75c22 education in great schools and universities that you got – and that your children are getting, good health, free healthcare for the times you’re not feeling well, unlimited fresh spring water running through your kitchen tap, a hot bubblebath. What’s on your list?

Some Ways to Practice Gratitude

  • Keep a gratitude journal in which you list things for which you are thankful. You can make daily, weekly or monthly lists. Greater frequency may be better for creating a new habit, but just keeping that journal where you can see it will remind you to think in a grateful way.
  • Make a gratitude collage by drawing or pasting pictures.
  • Practice gratitude around the dinner table or make it part of your nighttime routine.
  • Make a game of finding the hidden blessing in a challenging situation.
  • When you feel like complaining, make a gratitude list instead. You may be amazed by how much better you feel.
  • Notice how gratitude is impacting your life. Write about it, sing about it, express thanks for gratitude.

As you practice, an inner shift begins to occur, and you may be delighted to discover how content and hopeful you are feeling. That sense of fulfillment is gratitude at work.

What are your favourite ways of expressing gratitude? Share some inspiration with us – we’d love to hear about it!

How Well Do You Maintain Balance?

If trying to maintain balance in your life makes you feel like a tightrope walker, you’re not alone. Most of us have so many feng-shuiiiiiiiiiiidemands on our time and energy, life can feel like a three-ring circus. Take this quiz to see how well you are meeting responsibilities, while also recognizing and fulfilling personal needs and wants.

True  False

͏    ͏   1. The only way I can successfully manage my life is to take care of myself physically and emotionally.

͏    ͏   2. Nurturing myself enlarges my capacity to help others.

͏    ͏   3. I eat healthfully and exercise regularly.

͏    ͏   4. I get check-ups, go to the dentist, and take preventative precautions.

͏    ͏   5. I set aside personal, quiet time for myself, whether I’m meditating or simply letting my thoughts drift.

͏    ͏   6. I experience the gifts of each season: ice skating, sledding, bundled-up beach walks; gardening, hiking, more time outside; camping, swimming, barbeques; harvesting the bounty, gathering wood, spending more time inside.

͏    ͏   7. Creativity nurtures me, too. I do what I love, whether that’s cooking, drawing, painting, writing, dancing, singing or another creative pursuit.

͏    ͏   8. Reaching out to others enriches my life. I spend quality time with family and friends.

͏    ͏   9. Contributing to the world provides connection and purpose, so I give my time, energy and experience where it is most useful.

͏    ͏   10. I notice and heed the emotional signals that tell me I’m out of balance: irritability, overwhelm, resentment.

͏    ͏   11. If I feel that I’m catching a cold, I realize I may have stressed my immune system with overactivity, so I stop and take care of myself.

͏    ͏   12. When I need or want to, I say no to requests for my time.

͏    ͏   13. I listen to and honor the requests my body makes for such things as a nap, a walk, green vegetables, hot soup.

͏    ͏   14. If I have something planned for myself, I don’t just toss that aside when someone makes a request of me.

͏    ͏   15. I’m busy, but I find time to do the things I want to do.

͏    ͏   16. I’m happy. I regularly experience well-being, contentment, even joy.

If you answered false more often than true, you may want to take a look at the questions to which you answered false and see if you can incorporate something of its message into your life. Please don’t hesitate to call if you’d like to explore this issue further.

Author’s content used with permission, © Claire Communications

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