Saturday’s Wisdom: Be True To Yourself

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I’ve come to realize that…

…there’s an tremendeous truth in the words of Viktor Frankl as he stated that “when we are faced with something we can not change, we are challenged to change ourselves.” There is absolutely no valid reason to struggle or fight against or for something as everything already exists within you and everything already is exactly as it is supposed to be – just being right, right now. It is a changequotechallenge to not struggle, to not try and control – force – things and to just let go without losing faith. It’s difficult to love and let this love go to where (s)he needs to in order to grow – yet it is the most profound gesture of love that one can show.

It’s heartbreaking to loose a loved one in any kind of way but somehow it’s also very comforting and beautiful to know that we are simply just spiritual beings currently living in a human (or other) skin and that we, by this, will soon cross paths again and again and again. There is no true separation – there is merely different roads that leads to the same end destination and although we choose to travel on these different roads, in the end, we will always end up being together. We are soulmates and that is why I so very well recognized my loved ones at once, why I did not need to spend time getting to know them – we’ve already met and been together many times before, in other shapes, forms and lifetimes – but simply just embraced the blessing of once again being given the wonderful opportunity to together grow spiritually. I don’t need time to get to know you my love – I already do because we’ve been together for so long and so many times! I just simply needed to find you again and …look, there you are baby!! As beautiful as always.

“A soulmate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we’re pretending to be. Each unveils the best part of the other. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person we’re safe in our own paradise. Our soulmate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. When we’re two balloons, and together our direction is up, chances are we’ve found the right person. Our soulmate is the one who makes life come to life.” – Richard Bach

I had a quantum moment some days ago. You know, one of those moments that comes through a sense of energy, an inner knowingness, an answer or in some other kind of ways when you simply feel, can identify oChange-Quoter “just know” that you’ve reached divine contact – this insight that suddenly has been imparted to you at the most perfect (often unexpected) time as an answer to a question you might not even be aware that you’ve asked. I simply love when this happens to me! Not only because these moments often completely change my view on something or about someone but also because they are very likely to be life-changing! I read once that “spiritual progress is not usually experienced as some event-changing shift but it is a gradual awakening composed of many shifts and realizations” and that’s exactly what these sudden moments of huge insight are – steps on the spiritual path. Quantum moments always reminds me of how amazing God’s grace works – things never are what they seem and the most unexpected always happens, as surprise (spiritual) gifts from God!

My mentioned quantum moment led me to a deep realisation that I had done a loved one wrong. This sudden insight of my own behaviour and actions made me feel ashamed and…not-so-good, mostly because I strongly believe that we should always and in all ways show the greatest compassion, deepest love and never-ending faith and loyalty towards our most loved ones and I felt that I had failed that – deeply. However, with nothing but loving thoughts in my mind and a great deal of faith in that “all is and always will be as it’s supposed to’”, I summoned up some courage and apologized to my loved one whom – as the most fascinating spiritual being he is – responded most gently with two simple words. Which, probably needless to say, makes me adore him even more! Anyway, in having my “moment” I reflected once again on how truly fantastic the divine, God or whoever/whatever definition you want to use, see to it that our past issues exist in order to support us on our spiritual path to a higher consciousness.

Everything we are or do in the Now is a result of the one we were or what we’ve done in the Past and it all gives us the opportunity to be or do better in our Tomorrow. There is a divine perfection in all and everything that ensures that we are given the chance to grow and fulfill the purpose for which we are intended. Nothing happens by accident and I find comfountitled changert in the knowledge that when we are faced with situations which we might have little or no control over, it is something which we ourselves should learn from it all. In other words, we are not powerless victims faced with an uncontrolled situation but powerful beings faced with yet another opportunity to take an honest look “inside”, learn and grow from our participation in and (re)action to/from the situation. Viktor Frankl called this “the last of the human freedoms – to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances“.

We are all divine beings and we all have all the qualities, the capabilities, the perfection as well as the imperfection to do and become everything that we are meant to – to share of our unique creation to the world – and at any given moment, in any given situation, we are blessed with the opportunity to do so. When you think of someone you love in this perspective – or all other spiritual beings for that matter, including yourself – how can you not feel love and only love for his/hers/its/yours entire being, with (im)perfections and all? …divine creations…just as God intended.

It’s not personal

Each of us comes into this world with a particular mission, written within our souls. I have myimages own mission as you have yours. We might cross paths as our individual missions in one way or another may interact with eachother’s – however each and every single one of us will still be alone on our own spiritual journey in order to fulfill our own particular mission. And we all have our lessons to learn…our experiences and wisdom to gain. This means that we once or a couple of times in life say or do things that aren’t in the best of interest for our own spiritual growth nor for anyone else – it is however a step that needs to be taken on our journey as we mature and, like a baby taking it’s first steps, are navigating and trying to master something that is so much greater than ourselves. So don’t take anything anyone else’s doing personally as it is not you who are the Star of their show, it is themselves.

If you manage to master this blessing you’ll be able to share of your love imagesCAGT5V9Qbut still not be a target for someone elses harmful words or actions. You won’t need to put your trust in what other people do or say as you will not be affected by it – each and everyone must owe up to take responsibility for their own reality. You can choose to follow your heart always no matter what as no one will be able to harm you – enabling you to focus on how to share of your greatest gift, love.

If being faced with feelings of hurt, instead of choosing any of the “easier” options like feeling sorry for yourself, “paying back” or feeling resentment towards the one who “caused” you pain – in fact inflicted pain on him or herself – ask yourself “How am I going to grow from this? How can I use this to make me my most Divine self? What can I now contribute that I couldn’t have if I had never had this experience?” Embrace the experience – I know it ain’t easy every time but try –, vision the greater Divine picture and learn from it. Always remember, it really really isn’t personal!

 

Lead with awareness

Great leaders lead with awareness. That means that they aren’t only using their knowledge, experience and intelligence as foundation for theirpersonal_growth leadership. Leading with awareness is something more. Leading with awareness is about how to use all the three mentioned qualities in an ethical and moral way – it’s about leading with your heart. Leading with a servant mindset. Awareness is what we gain as we throughout our entire life put our thoughts, ideas and values to the test, and by that get a deep insight of what we find to be right and wrong as well as good and bad. Not only for ourselves but for others – many individuals actually come to the conclusion that what provides meaning to life is really not when it’s all about “me” but about “them”.

Yet awareness isn’t what our “modern” world seem to seek, or even truly appreciate. Not in our society and not as desired qualities in our leaders. What we do seem to appreciate however is money, fame and power – all three which are considered as “signs of success”. The more money, fame or power that we can get or achieve, the more successful we “are” or consider ourselves and others. Money, fame and power are something that’s truly sought after in our society. And it seems to be a fact that once we gain either money, fame or power – or some or all of them – we can not get enough of it. We just crave more and more of it – to fill a void of something that we can not put our finger on. Like an addiction.

“Everybody wants to be somebody; nobody wants to grow.” – Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

A quest for money, fame and power isn’t necessarily a bad thing though. King Salomon said that “money are great servants but bad masters” and there’s certainly a great deal of truth in that. Money, fame or power are not goals in themselves but resources to use wisely in order to serve others! Money can absolutely create great possibilities, fame can most definitely open doors and power can be well used to create long-term values in a selfless, servant and compassionate society. But only if we as leaders are courageous enough to move beyond our ego and lead from our heart, with awareness of what’s going on around and within us. By taking advantage of our experience and combine these with our own core values, our inner wisdom can work as a compass which at all times will guide us right – not only in our leadership but also in our own life.

But how do we do this? How do we, as leaders who want to grow not only in our leadership but also as human beings, lead with awareness? How do we in the best way lead and serve others with our heart as the guiding light? These questions will be discussed further in Gusto Life Group’s Servant Leadership-article series during this year. You are very welcome to share your thoughts, ideas and insights on this subject with us – either via the comments section or by e-mail.

“Do you wish for…

...kindness? Be kind.
Do you ask for truth? Be true.
What you give of yourself you find;
Your world is a reflex of you.”
– James Allen

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Servant leadership

As we’re entering into the mid-summer in Texas I’ve been reflectingimagesCAP08KUW back on this year’s experiences and how they have shaped me – and the people I’ve worked together with-  to improve further as human beings and leaders. It’s been a year filled with fascinating events, encounters with countless inspiring individuals and lots of new priceless lessons learned. One of the major things that I’ve noticed during this year is that there’s a larger demand for leaders whom lead from their heart. Leaders who with authenticity, integrity and deep passion are ready to build long-term success from a strong value-grounded foundation. Leaders with the mindfulness to not only see through the shallow facades but also with the courage and strength to go another way against the established culture in order to truly serve others. Genuine – real – servant leaders put others first and realize it’s never ever about “me” but always about “them”.

“Don’t just serve for surface value – spend time to let the seed take root and grow in the heart.” – David Gustafson

We, as a society, need leaders whom combine their ability to create great results with a long-term development of individuals and organizations. We need, and want, leaders whom want and are eager to be part of creating a better future and a higher quality of life in all areas of ones life – the kind of leaders whom have and want to share, inspire, support and serve others in building organizations and a society that enhance our ability for compassion and cooperation. We want leaders who lead by serving others and by “making a difference” in the lives of others. I believe that this is also one of the main “trends” that we will not only see but also establish in the coming year of 2015 –a huge demand for and development of servant leaders.

“And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.” – Marianne Williamson

Faith or foolishness?

Is it possible to have too much faith? To be too courageous? Where does the line go between being very courageous and being plain foolish? And what defines foolishness?

A very brave friend of mine arplan lifee about to embark on a adventurous and most likely life-changing journey.  This journey has been planned for quite some time, with careful considerations to all that might or might not happen, or develop, as a result of it. However, what was by him before thought of as a pretty normal event with all that naturally happens in the course of a relationship – yes, we are talking about a lovers situation here – this “journey” has turned into a drama of its own and the events now unfolded  as led him to reflect great deal on the subjects of having faith, being courageous or being plain foolish.

Not long ago his plans seemed like a great idea. As a matter of fact he felt that it seemed as an incredible, fun, exciting and amazing opportunity. A blessing from the Divine that could lead him to fantastic never-before-experienced things and to a life with the woman of his dreams. However, by unseemed actions – at least for him – things have surfaced that indicates that this “fun, exciting and amazing opportunity” that he expected might not happen the way he planned it to. My question, does it ever?

“Although individuals around me smile and tell me – or my loved ones remind me – of how ‘courageous’ I (supposedly) am, so often daring to do what many wouldn’t, their words of encouragement is not working on me this time. In fact, I do not feel courageous at all….I feel totally lost.”

My friend explained to me how he’d felt about this change in course – expressing feelings of confusion, discouragement and more importantly a sense of being lost. He’d even questioned his courage – wondering if he had not just been plain foolish and blind, not courageous.

tumblr_ms8u1cjo0v1rtqolxo1_1280To me courage is daring to follow your heart’s desire, the path of your soul and having faith in that everything will work out to the best – in a greater perspective. Courage is what makes people go against the mainstream and follow their inner voice – or the guidance of the Divine source – in order to grow spiritually. Courage is what makes us take a huge leap of faith and follow our hearts desire when meeting the (wo)man of our dreams in order to pursue our relationship – even if, as my friend and his lover, you are living in different parts of the world. Courage is what makes us try new or different things, or walk on to unknown paths, although feeling afraid, just to be able to grow in one way or another. Courage is to be truly scared but still move ahead.

It makes me think about what some individuals are prepared to in order to fulfill their deepest dreams! Their courage, strength and faith is beautiful and it warms my heart simply thinking about it! Especially when they are determined to turn something that can be perceived as a “tough situation” into a golden moment of opportunity. I love that!

“The optimist refuses to believe that the road ends without options” – Robert H. Schuller.

One thing is clear to me though. Although we’re told by society that we are frail and powerless beings who live in a world where things just “happen” for no apparent reason, I am confident that our existence – as our most ancient and cherished spiritual traditions tell us – is based on a Divine force that lives within each and every one of us. A power that nothing in the world can touch. And for my friend there’s some – to him at this point unknown and unforeseeable – reason he’s supposed to do this. All the signs still points him towards it. Yes, there’s no denying that his situation has gone from a being “a prospective wonderful amazing God-given opportunity to a life in total bliss” (his words) to a complete turnaround into a somewhat frightening and lonely road.

6My friend is still guided to go through with it. And with restored faith in great things ahead, he surely will. It’s not going to be the way he wished or planned for, that’s clear. But with the determination to make the best he can out of the current situation, I am absolutely convinced he’ll experience a journey beyond his imagination. In other words, better than anything he ever could have planned. I know from my own experiences that it is only by the courageous leaps I’ve taken that I’ve gotten to not only encounter the most amazing individuals, but also experience truly fascinating spiritual journeys. Having faith and leaving the rest in God’s hands, that is the most courageous thing you can do.

The things that are going on right now in my friends life right now makes me think of the words of Gibran who in his classic book “The Prophet” reminds us of what it means to have a great gift and to know that it’s power is already within us. Gibran writes that “no man can reveal to you aught but that which already lies half asleep in the dawning of your knowledge.” In other words, we can’t be taught what we don’t already know as we came into the world already knowing how to use our beliefs and I find that to be so very true. We ourselves have the power to rewrite our own code of reality. It’s just a matter of choice of how we want our life to be! Isn’t that an amazing blessing from the Divine?! I truly think so!

Gibran’s thought aren’t something new – in fact, his book was published in the beginning of the 19th century. The same subject has been explored by many mystics in the past. The ancient Sufi poet Jalal ad-Din ar-Rumi describes the irony of our mysterious condition in this world by stating that “what strange beings we are that sitting in hell at the bottom of the dark, we’re afraid of our own immortality.” Rumi, as well as many other ancient philosophers, explored the promise of surviving the darkest moments of life and the reassurance that difficult times are only a part of a journey that leads to a place where bad things can’t happen any longer as they reflected on “the deepest mysteries of life”. Just as these fascinating individuals, I myself do not believe that we are fragile victims of events that are beyond our control but that we are powerful creators of our own life – if we choose to be! Which leads me back to the beginning…not knowing anything yet knowing it all I could not but encourage my friend to embark on this fascinating, scary and divine journey with faith that it’ll lead to all that he want it to – the fulfillment of his soul’s desire as ones know it.

Through the godlike power of human belief, we are given the equally divine ability to bring what we believe to life in the matrix of energy that bathes and surrounds us.”

“10 Biblical Rules For A Happy Marriage”…or just “common sense when You truly love and care for your spouse and not just your Ego”.

I am amazingly blessed! Yes, I am and I’m not covering it up or being modest about it. On the contrary, I rejoice in God’s Gift to me and in the fact that I am one of those incredibly (few) tumblr_m72dg6dnE41qg89yfo1_500blessed women who are married to a man who’s not only capable of but also willing to be a Man without interference by his Ego. I am talking about a man who’s such Soulful Spiritual Being that he – for most parts (he IS human after all…although sometimes I wonder…) – puts aside all things Egotistical for the Greater Good of Our Relationship, and for Me. Together we are on a Spiritual Journey, always learning and always growing – individually and together.

A fantastic loving and trustful relationship isn’t something that just happen though – it takes passion, compassion, a desire to (re)learn, genuine love and respect for one another, the ability to forgive and forget and probably most of all, honest and respectful COMMUNICATION.

1. Never bring up mistakes of the past. Stop criticizing others or it will come back on you. If you forgive others, you will be forgiven. – Luke 6:37

2. Neglect the whole world rather than each other. And how do you benefit if you gain the whole world but lose your own soul in the process? – Mark 8:36

a08e6fb903730a630fc009511935c5973. Never go to sleep with an argument unsettled. And don’t sin by letting anger gain control over you. Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry. – Ephesians 4:26

4. At least once a day, try to say something complimentary to your spouse. Gentle words bring life and health; a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit. – Proverbs 15:4

5. Never meet without an affectionate welcome. Kiss me again and  again, your love is sweeter than wine. – Song of Solomon 1:2

6. “For richer or poorer” – rejoice in every moment that God has given you together. A bowl of soup with someone you love is better than steak with someone you hate. – Proverbs 15:17

7. If you have a choice between making yourself or your mate look good, choose your mate. Do not withhold good from those who deserve it when it’s in your power to help them. – Proverbs 3:27

8. If they’re breathing, your mate will eventually offend you. Learn to forgive. I am warning you, if another believer sins, rebuke him; then if he repents, forgive him. Even if he wrongs you seven times a day and each time turns again and asks forgiveness, forgive him. – Luke 17:3,4

9. Don’t use faith, the Bible, or God as a hammer. God did not send His Son into the world to condemn it, but to save it. – John 3:17

10. Let love be your guidepost. Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. Love does not demand its own way. Love is not irritable and it keeps no record of when it has been wronged. – 1 Corinthians 13:4-5

Relationships are the gateway to freedom

This morning I read a insightful article that resonated well with my heart and I’d like to share it with you. It’s written by Jafree Ozwald from Enlightened Beings.

“Only in relationship can you know yourself, not in abstraction and certainly not in isolation.” J. Krishnamurti

The quality of our relationships is the best guide we have to knowing ourselves. The way we interact, react and respond to others allows us understand where we are at in our soul’s path and evolution. The way we behave with others acts as a mirror for our own consciousness. It reveals the details of the role we believe we are playing in this world, and lets us clearly see our reflection in the mirror. The more aware we are of the mirror that each relationship has, the easier it becomes to change our response, alter the judgment (reflection) we perceive to be there, and then take a more enlightened approach to the image. Ultimately, the relationship mirror is there to create deep insights into ourselves so we can adjust to create a healthier attitude towards life, and manifest a better world for our future. What you see in your relationship mirror each day reveals everything you need to know about yourself. What you like in others is what you believe you are lacking inside yourself. What you don’t like in others is what you are rejecting and denial of inside yourself. It truly is this simple. The more intimate you can become with everyone in your mirror, the more the Universe will reveal to you where it is you are blocked on your journey and how spiritually evolved you actually are.

Through other people we can see every detail of ourselves. We can see which priorities we deem to be sacred, understand the level of attachment and aloofness we have in our love life, see the level of fear and denial that we are dealing with, and discover all the hidden issues we have buried deeper inside. Relationships help us to see the real source of our pain, loneliness, frustration, and of course get a glimpse into the unconditional love that thrives at the core of our being. It is only through diving into this divine multi-dimensional, multi-sensual mirror that the divine supreme consciousness inside our soul can be discovered! Once this pure consciousness is found and brought up through the murky waters into every relationship we have, it paves a path for permanent and total liberation from all forms of suffering that have encaged us in all our lives.relationship

“Residing in the mind is hell, prison. Resting in the heart, in love is heaven, freedom. We are more free than any thought conceived of what defines freedom. Who we are is far more vast than anything the mind thinks we are.” ~Angela Walker

Real poverty in life does not come from a lack of financial abundance, energy or creativity. Poverty stems from an avoidance and neglect of looking at who you are in this relationship mirror. Whenever we get into the habit of blaming anything outside ourselves for our unhappiness, we cannot really know why we are unhappy. When we are not using the relationship reflection to see into the truth of who we are being, we cannot develop our most enlightened character that we can imagine becoming on life’s stage.

The richest person in this world is the one who is the most free. This level of freedom in life comes not from a freedom that can be taken away from, yet from simply embracing and accepting wholeheartedly what is seen in the relationship mirror. The wise person has a respect for the feedback found in the reflection, and a state of gratitude for it, no matter how depressing the image may seem to be. There is an equanimity in the mind with where things are at because they can see the bigger picture of life’s journey. This truly enriched enlightened being has developed the habit of approaching others without judgment, fear or manipulation. They simply honor each person as a teacher who was sent to guide the soul back to Source in the most unique and unsuspecting way.

One of the most interesting insights I’ve had in my life was around about how the world actually is and how it sometimes appears to be. The World is this highly intelligent and perfectly organized field of conscious energy, which can appear to be dark, messy, harsh, unjust and abusive. It has both polarities at all times, and when this is realized the mind is not so easily tempted to believe there is only one side. When this enlightening thought hit me it became crystal clear how the Universe is always in a karmically divine order and is constantly in balance within itself. It is never off balance, ever. It only seems to be lacking balance and order when we have a narrowed mind and one-sided perspective.

“The real question is not whether life exists after death. The real question is whether you are alive before death.” ~Osho

When we remove the blinds we can revel in the glory of this sweet unsolvable mystery that is meant to keep us living freely on the edge of the unknown. By welcoming this succulent mystery of the relationship mirror everyday, we can see all three sides of the coin and truly be free. We can know who we spiritually are and start dancing beneath the stars without a care in the world. We can stop to relax and bathe in the Sun’s warm sunshine, enjoy the fluttering of a butterfly passing by, and feel the cool breeze glide across our face as we interact with our community from a place of understanding, lightness, awareness and compassion.

In our most enlightened space, we are constantly choosing to feel accept, love and appreciate ourselves exactly the way we are. This self-loving energy is then reflected outwards, onto everyone else in the world, giving them the feeling of self-acceptance exactly as they are. When we are abiding in this deep state of acceptance, we can find every experience to be exquisitely enlightening. We greet each experience with an open state of outer curiosity and inner self-enquiry. We constantly balance upon the edge of what we know and don’t know to be true.

relationshipIt is this inquisitive state of mind that pushes us to reach into the spiritual depths of the heart and discover the most magnificent home that is within our innermost being. By simply abiding in a state of wonder we can know how easy it is to evolve in consciousness, and every day discover a joyous heart in our chest overflowing with gratitude and love. This is the only way we can truly transcend all the suffering created in the mind.

During your day, whenever you can, stop to take a good long look inside yourself. Notice if either you have a heart filled with peace, or a mind caught in some whirlwind of thinking. It’s either one or the other, never do they both exist together. It’s like water and oil, they remain distinct and separate yet can appear to be mixed. When you’re looking inside, if you don’t like what you find, remember that you are the highest authority of your life! You are The Great Divine Master of your inner world. You have the power to make it into a heaven or a hell, and it’s all depending on one little thing. How connected are you with your heart. By forming a practice of creating a cozy sweet nest which you can feel is “home sweet home” within your heart, your journey through life will never feel cold, dark, lonely or fearful. Instead you will always have light and warmth wherever you are.

“And this is a miracle: the moment that you realize that there is no way to make a home, then this whole existence is home. Then wherever you are, you are at home.” ~Course in Miracles

Relationships are designed to not turn out the way we think they should because they are meant to make you grow in the most miraculous ways. The enlightened path of relationship is the path to total freedom because it throws us into the greatest spiritual journey of our lives. Relationships are the advanced life mastery course of life, they are the most ultimate challenge we can take. When we open up to explore a deep intimate relationship with someone, we have to look at ourselves in the spiritual mirror. The deeper we go, the more we will learn. Even if the relationship fizzles out in a week, falls through the cracks in a few months, or ends in devastating divorce after years, we are always given the gift of freedom in the end. The feeling of total liberation hits us like a gentle feather or a brick, depending on if we looked into the mirror and discovered this divine succulent spiritual truth of who we really are along the way.

Perhaps the greatest tip I’ve found in creating a healthy loving relationship is first knowing exactly what will ruin it. It’s important to know that the very moment you stop enjoying your relationship, you are starting to destroy it. You’ll also kill any relationship by imposing your ideas about how the other should and should not be. If you don’t tell the whole truth, hide your feelings, and don’t be impeccable with your word you’ll squeeze the life out of it. If you hide, play emotionally small, think small thoughts, and don’t ever take a risk to be real they cannot respect you and will one day walk away. If you can never apologize for anything, they will always be at a distance for you. The secret is doing the opposite of each of these things. We all deserve some room to make mistakes in life, and yet if you are spending years feeling stuck in your relationship, you’re not taking the time to look at the reflection in the mirror that’s right in front of you.

“The day on which we come to know the supreme consciousness within us, then the outside world will also appear to us like the expanse of the supreme consciousness. The whole will be a mirror to us when we become a mirror within.” ~Osho

theme_relationshipsThe last insight that I wish to share with you today, may be one of the greatest secrets to mastering relationships of them all. This is about knowing how to distinguish and interact with the two types of people in life. There are those who feed you, and those who feed off of you. People will either try to inspire you and lift you up, or devour your energy and pull you down. Many people out there aren’t yet conscious about how they are relating to you, nor the impact they have upon you. They live too close to their mind and cannot see the reflection in the mirror. The responsibility then is yours if you are falling prey to someone who pulls you down each day. Notice how do you respond when this someone is pulling your energy down? Why do you respond the way you do? Once you are able to respond with respect for yourself and never let anyone pull you down into the emotional dumpster with them, you have mastered one of the greatest lessons in this life.

In the end, we are each the ultimate authorities of what we manifest in our lives. We are each responsible for enjoying the people we bring into our homes, and responsible for the way we allow them to treat us. We are responsible if others can enjoy us, or feel forced to run away from us. We are the real authority. The greatest relationship is with ourselves. The other is there so our soul is pushed deeper, and we stop pointing the finger at the outer world for our lack of love or power. The connection with our own soul is where the gold is at, and this happens simply by turning our attention towards no other direction than the central heart of our being.

The heart is the answer to all our problems in life. We did not come to Earth to micromanage our lives, achieve our goals, reach to the top, or fix our broken self-esteem. Our mission here is much simpler and sweeter than this. We are here to abide in the heart, transcend the ego, find our real spiritual path and ascend into each day with pure unconditional love from our soul. We were born to discover that who we truly are is beyond the form and the formless. We are here to remember that we are timeless spiritual beings who do not die. We came here to embody this sweet sacred knowing and develop an everyday understanding that eternity is our natural state of being. This is why we are here, and understanding this in relationship brings about the gateway to freedom.

“I don’t know…”

“…if I continue, even today, always liking myself. But for what I learned to do many years ago was to forgive myself. It is very important for every human being to forgive herself or himself because if you live, you will make mistakes – it is inevitable. But once you do and you see the mistake, then you forgive yourself and say, “well, if I’d known better I’d have done better’, and that’s all. So you say to people who you think you may have injured, ‘I am sorry’ and then you say to yourself, ‘I am sorry’. If we will hold on to the mistake, we can’t see our own glory in the mirror because we have the mistake between our faces and the mirror; we can’t see what we’re capable of being. You can ask forgiveness of others, but in the end the real forgiveness is in one’s own self. […] The real difficulty is to overcome how you think about yourself. If we don’t have that we never grow, we never learn, and sure as hell we should never teach.” – Maya Angelou