The 25 Best Blogs of 2015

Get some great inspiration for growth from 25 of our favorite life and leadership blogs (in no particular order). They are a mixture of “famous” medalj-guld-stor-500x500blogs and less well known but great blogs. What they all have in common, is that they all aim – and succeed – to inspire and advise on all matters related to personal and professional growth.

Read and be inspired!

1. Leadercast

2. Success

3. The Upwards Leader

4. Scott Hansen

5. The Chief Happiness Officer Blog

6. Michael Hyatt

7. Motivational Memo

8. Tiny Buddha

9. The Dream Catcher

10. The Secrets of Success

11. Lolly Daskal

12. Happy Melly

13. Michael Lee Stallard

14. Ying Ying Shi

15. Imperfect Spirituality

16. Limitless

17. The Muse

18. Your Life YOUR way

19. The Grasshopper Blog

20. All Business

21. Pam Grout

22. Rebel Brown

23. Strategies Blog

24. Gretchen Rubin

25. Daring To Live Fully

Are You Really a Compassionate Leader?

There’s a great deal of focus in my life on personal and professional growth right now. It consumes me – in the most positive way – and I find it absolutely great, fun and so very inspirational. Anyway, I was talking with a friend today about my thoughts on the importance of a leader being compassionate – personally and professionally.

I firmly believe that no successful leader or individual can lack compassion as to me that equals being unaware of your true essence as a being. A compassionate individual sees things in people – they see their strengths and weaknesses as well as their passions and fears. They see what makes others special and they work to draw that out. A great leader recognize that compassion begins from within. And that it is only when you can forgive and love yourself, as you can give that forgiveness and love to others.

Fall, to rise again

However it seems that it is not until one individual, at one point or another in his/hers life, truly has fallen down that (s)he fully develop – and practise – compassion as it should be practised. This might not be so strange though considering that it usually is in the process of getting up from such “fall down” that you discover who you really are, what you truly care about and how you want to live the rest of your life. You learn so much more on the way up than you possibly can do at the top.

“Maybe it is true that it’s only when you have nothing, that you can learn what is truly meaningful to you!” – Ulrika @GustoLifeGroup

A great compassionate leader has done this journey, personally – spiritually – and professionally. And it’s through that journey – those challenges – that they have come to recognize that each and every one of us have something special within us. Such aware leader, or individual, also knows that it’s only through developing a meaningful relationship with another person that you can draw the gift of genuine compassion out in the open.

“Compassion is a verb.” – Ulrika @GustoLifeGroup

It’s not enough to just feel it though. Compassion is worthless unless you in fact do something with it! And this is why humility is the precursor to compassion. Humility is what opens you up in a way that enables compassion to “flow in” and become real.

A compassionate relationship

In a compassionate relationship you pull another person in by genuinely listening and asking questions. There’s a valuable lesson for you to learn from every individual and situation you encounter. As a compassionate leader you constantly need to ask yourself,
– Do I make people feel better about themselves?
– Do I make them feel like they are capable of achieving more than they ever thought they could do?
– Am I courageous enough to enpower others or does my fear cause me to micro-manage/want to control instead?
– What can I learn from this individual and this situation?

“Great leaders dare to be vulnerable” – Ulrika @GustoLifeGroup

That’s what compassion is all about – letting go of fear, daring to be vulnerable and be encouraging, caring, sharing, listening and loving towards others! And it’s amazing, it can be as easy as just listening or saying a kind word to a loved one, a stranger or a fellow employee.

True compassion

In his book An Open Heart: Practicing Compassion in Everyday Life, Dalai Lama writes that true compassion “has the intensity and spontaneity of a loving mother caring for her suffering baby. Throughout the day, such a mother’s concern for her child affects all her thoughts and actions. This is the attitude we are working to cultivate with each and every being. When we experience this, we have generated great compassion.” Simple. And beautiful!

“A man is walking along a beach and comes across a boy picking something up off the sand and gently throwing it into the ocean. Curious, the man asked, ‘What are you doing?’

‘I am throwing starfish into the ocean,’ the boy answered. ‘The sun is up and the tide is going out and if I don’t throw them in, they will die.’

The man said, ‘Well, don’t you realize there are miles and miles of beach and hundreds of starfish? You can’t possibly make a difference.’

The little boy bent down and he picked up another starfish and threw it into the surf. He smiled at the man and said, ‘But I made a difference to that one.’ ” – The Star Thrower

Tuesday’s Wisdom: It’s Not About You

Leadership is not about You. Your special talents and gifts are not about You. Your Life is not about You nor is it for You. Your life and your purpose is to be serving other beings – sharing of all your talents – for a greater good. It’s all about service.

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Saturday’s Wisdom: Be True To Yourself

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I’ve come to realize that…

…there’s an tremendeous truth in the words of Viktor Frankl as he stated that “when we are faced with something we can not change, we are challenged to change ourselves.” There is absolutely no valid reason to struggle or fight against or for something as everything already exists within you and everything already is exactly as it is supposed to be – just being right, right now. It is a changequotechallenge to not struggle, to not try and control – force – things and to just let go without losing faith. It’s difficult to love and let this love go to where (s)he needs to in order to grow – yet it is the most profound gesture of love that one can show.

It’s heartbreaking to loose a loved one in any kind of way but somehow it’s also very comforting and beautiful to know that we are simply just spiritual beings currently living in a human (or other) skin and that we, by this, will soon cross paths again and again and again. There is no true separation – there is merely different roads that leads to the same end destination and although we choose to travel on these different roads, in the end, we will always end up being together. We are soulmates and that is why I so very well recognized my loved ones at once, why I did not need to spend time getting to know them – we’ve already met and been together many times before, in other shapes, forms and lifetimes – but simply just embraced the blessing of once again being given the wonderful opportunity to together grow spiritually. I don’t need time to get to know you my love – I already do because we’ve been together for so long and so many times! I just simply needed to find you again and …look, there you are baby!! As beautiful as always.

“A soulmate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we’re pretending to be. Each unveils the best part of the other. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person we’re safe in our own paradise. Our soulmate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. When we’re two balloons, and together our direction is up, chances are we’ve found the right person. Our soulmate is the one who makes life come to life.” – Richard Bach

I had a quantum moment some days ago. You know, one of those moments that comes through a sense of energy, an inner knowingness, an answer or in some other kind of ways when you simply feel, can identify oChange-Quoter “just know” that you’ve reached divine contact – this insight that suddenly has been imparted to you at the most perfect (often unexpected) time as an answer to a question you might not even be aware that you’ve asked. I simply love when this happens to me! Not only because these moments often completely change my view on something or about someone but also because they are very likely to be life-changing! I read once that “spiritual progress is not usually experienced as some event-changing shift but it is a gradual awakening composed of many shifts and realizations” and that’s exactly what these sudden moments of huge insight are – steps on the spiritual path. Quantum moments always reminds me of how amazing God’s grace works – things never are what they seem and the most unexpected always happens, as surprise (spiritual) gifts from God!

My mentioned quantum moment led me to a deep realisation that I had done a loved one wrong. This sudden insight of my own behaviour and actions made me feel ashamed and…not-so-good, mostly because I strongly believe that we should always and in all ways show the greatest compassion, deepest love and never-ending faith and loyalty towards our most loved ones and I felt that I had failed that – deeply. However, with nothing but loving thoughts in my mind and a great deal of faith in that “all is and always will be as it’s supposed to’”, I summoned up some courage and apologized to my loved one whom – as the most fascinating spiritual being he is – responded most gently with two simple words. Which, probably needless to say, makes me adore him even more! Anyway, in having my “moment” I reflected once again on how truly fantastic the divine, God or whoever/whatever definition you want to use, see to it that our past issues exist in order to support us on our spiritual path to a higher consciousness.

Everything we are or do in the Now is a result of the one we were or what we’ve done in the Past and it all gives us the opportunity to be or do better in our Tomorrow. There is a divine perfection in all and everything that ensures that we are given the chance to grow and fulfill the purpose for which we are intended. Nothing happens by accident and I find comfountitled changert in the knowledge that when we are faced with situations which we might have little or no control over, it is something which we ourselves should learn from it all. In other words, we are not powerless victims faced with an uncontrolled situation but powerful beings faced with yet another opportunity to take an honest look “inside”, learn and grow from our participation in and (re)action to/from the situation. Viktor Frankl called this “the last of the human freedoms – to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances“.

We are all divine beings and we all have all the qualities, the capabilities, the perfection as well as the imperfection to do and become everything that we are meant to – to share of our unique creation to the world – and at any given moment, in any given situation, we are blessed with the opportunity to do so. When you think of someone you love in this perspective – or all other spiritual beings for that matter, including yourself – how can you not feel love and only love for his/hers/its/yours entire being, with (im)perfections and all? …divine creations…just as God intended.

Perfection

I am not perfect, on the contrary. Of course, considering the fact that we in our western world tend to crave perfection in all its natural and imagesunnatural forms you might think that my statement may not make sense. It is however a statement which is deeply true and for that I am very grateful. You see, my imperfections and perfections – the divine essence of whom I really am – are the results of a passionate fascinating interesting life lived. A life that has taught me so much and made me experience even more…but most of all it have made me grow as a person – and as a spiritual being. My journey has taught me who I am rather than the one I, or anyone else for that matter, thought I was. And the best part is that even after 18 years of “awareness” and “lessons learned” I am still learning wonderful things about myself and of what our spiritual paths has to offer. It’s fantastic and I am so very very thankful!♥

In her book “Radical Self-Acceptance” buddhist teacher and author Tara Brach talks about the importance of acceptance of who you are – who you truly are. A part of this is to recognize all our feelings, each and every one of our thoughts and analyze our actions – all in order to truthfully know ourselves. This means that those feelings of unworthiness, shame, feeling unloved…all of them can teach you something about yourself without victimizing you. If you are willing to pay attention to them – acknowledge them as being part of who you are – they can tell you about yourself and your spiritual lessons in a truthful divine manner.

For people of our times – individuals who are working on their self-improvement, in a spiritual sense – these feelings are signals of something that imagesCALSVBUUwe fear (although it may take some really honest inner dialogue to see what it is) and therefore need to work with. We are not to reject them or deny them but to embrace them as what they are. It is not until we do this as we truly can heal and become whole. It is everything about you – perfections and imperfections – that contribute to your uniqueness and it is all the events in your life – the good experiences and the ones that left a wound in your heart – that create the mix that defines the fascinating spiritual being that is YOU.

It is also by accepting our own imperfections just as much as our perfections that we can get to experience the love of others despite their “imperfections” – the experience of a true soulful spiritual loverelationship – as we recognize the reality of the spiritual being they are. Remember the greater picture – the Divine Purpose – “rather than a journey of perfection our journey is towards wholeness” as stated by Tara Brach. Spiritual worthiness. 🙂

“Until you see the necessity of owning all of who are, you can’t extract the jewels from every experience of your life and your story will continue to use you. It will continue to clobber you over the head and make you act as though you’re small. But the moment you see the value in the parts you hate as well as those you feel good about, the moment you recognize that painful event as the perfect ingredient to make your recipe complete, you will witness the magic of transformation. You will bless what you formerly saw as a curse. You will watch as the horrid becomes holy.” – Debbie Ford

Improve your life – and leadership – with gratitude

Philosophers have since ancient times taught that the key to experiencing deeper levelspower-gratitude of happiness, fulfilment and wellbeing is cultivating gratitude. One of the earliest advocates of a daily gratitude practise was well known dutch philosopher Rabbi Baruch Spinoza who suggested that as a way to find more meaning and joy in our lives, we should each day for a month ask ourselves the following three questions:

– Who or what inspires me today?
– What brought me happiness today?
– What brought me comfort and deep peace today?

According to Spinoza this daily practise would lead to profound inner transformation as, by focusing our attention on appreciation, we are moving our ego out of the way. So step out of your ego…and into the broader consciousness – connecting to your heart and soul – and express gratitude on a daily basis. It’ll improve your leadership and your life, on so many levels – this I can guarantee!

“If the only prayer you are saying in your life is `thank you` that would suffice” – Meister Eckhart

“Do you wish for…

...kindness? Be kind.
Do you ask for truth? Be true.
What you give of yourself you find;
Your world is a reflex of you.”
– James Allen

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Faith or foolishness?

Is it possible to have too much faith? To be too courageous? Where does the line go between being very courageous and being plain foolish? And what defines foolishness?

A very brave friend of mine arplan lifee about to embark on a adventurous and most likely life-changing journey.  This journey has been planned for quite some time, with careful considerations to all that might or might not happen, or develop, as a result of it. However, what was by him before thought of as a pretty normal event with all that naturally happens in the course of a relationship – yes, we are talking about a lovers situation here – this “journey” has turned into a drama of its own and the events now unfolded  as led him to reflect great deal on the subjects of having faith, being courageous or being plain foolish.

Not long ago his plans seemed like a great idea. As a matter of fact he felt that it seemed as an incredible, fun, exciting and amazing opportunity. A blessing from the Divine that could lead him to fantastic never-before-experienced things and to a life with the woman of his dreams. However, by unseemed actions – at least for him – things have surfaced that indicates that this “fun, exciting and amazing opportunity” that he expected might not happen the way he planned it to. My question, does it ever?

“Although individuals around me smile and tell me – or my loved ones remind me – of how ‘courageous’ I (supposedly) am, so often daring to do what many wouldn’t, their words of encouragement is not working on me this time. In fact, I do not feel courageous at all….I feel totally lost.”

My friend explained to me how he’d felt about this change in course – expressing feelings of confusion, discouragement and more importantly a sense of being lost. He’d even questioned his courage – wondering if he had not just been plain foolish and blind, not courageous.

tumblr_ms8u1cjo0v1rtqolxo1_1280To me courage is daring to follow your heart’s desire, the path of your soul and having faith in that everything will work out to the best – in a greater perspective. Courage is what makes people go against the mainstream and follow their inner voice – or the guidance of the Divine source – in order to grow spiritually. Courage is what makes us take a huge leap of faith and follow our hearts desire when meeting the (wo)man of our dreams in order to pursue our relationship – even if, as my friend and his lover, you are living in different parts of the world. Courage is what makes us try new or different things, or walk on to unknown paths, although feeling afraid, just to be able to grow in one way or another. Courage is to be truly scared but still move ahead.

It makes me think about what some individuals are prepared to in order to fulfill their deepest dreams! Their courage, strength and faith is beautiful and it warms my heart simply thinking about it! Especially when they are determined to turn something that can be perceived as a “tough situation” into a golden moment of opportunity. I love that!

“The optimist refuses to believe that the road ends without options” – Robert H. Schuller.

One thing is clear to me though. Although we’re told by society that we are frail and powerless beings who live in a world where things just “happen” for no apparent reason, I am confident that our existence – as our most ancient and cherished spiritual traditions tell us – is based on a Divine force that lives within each and every one of us. A power that nothing in the world can touch. And for my friend there’s some – to him at this point unknown and unforeseeable – reason he’s supposed to do this. All the signs still points him towards it. Yes, there’s no denying that his situation has gone from a being “a prospective wonderful amazing God-given opportunity to a life in total bliss” (his words) to a complete turnaround into a somewhat frightening and lonely road.

6My friend is still guided to go through with it. And with restored faith in great things ahead, he surely will. It’s not going to be the way he wished or planned for, that’s clear. But with the determination to make the best he can out of the current situation, I am absolutely convinced he’ll experience a journey beyond his imagination. In other words, better than anything he ever could have planned. I know from my own experiences that it is only by the courageous leaps I’ve taken that I’ve gotten to not only encounter the most amazing individuals, but also experience truly fascinating spiritual journeys. Having faith and leaving the rest in God’s hands, that is the most courageous thing you can do.

The things that are going on right now in my friends life right now makes me think of the words of Gibran who in his classic book “The Prophet” reminds us of what it means to have a great gift and to know that it’s power is already within us. Gibran writes that “no man can reveal to you aught but that which already lies half asleep in the dawning of your knowledge.” In other words, we can’t be taught what we don’t already know as we came into the world already knowing how to use our beliefs and I find that to be so very true. We ourselves have the power to rewrite our own code of reality. It’s just a matter of choice of how we want our life to be! Isn’t that an amazing blessing from the Divine?! I truly think so!

Gibran’s thought aren’t something new – in fact, his book was published in the beginning of the 19th century. The same subject has been explored by many mystics in the past. The ancient Sufi poet Jalal ad-Din ar-Rumi describes the irony of our mysterious condition in this world by stating that “what strange beings we are that sitting in hell at the bottom of the dark, we’re afraid of our own immortality.” Rumi, as well as many other ancient philosophers, explored the promise of surviving the darkest moments of life and the reassurance that difficult times are only a part of a journey that leads to a place where bad things can’t happen any longer as they reflected on “the deepest mysteries of life”. Just as these fascinating individuals, I myself do not believe that we are fragile victims of events that are beyond our control but that we are powerful creators of our own life – if we choose to be! Which leads me back to the beginning…not knowing anything yet knowing it all I could not but encourage my friend to embark on this fascinating, scary and divine journey with faith that it’ll lead to all that he want it to – the fulfillment of his soul’s desire as ones know it.

Through the godlike power of human belief, we are given the equally divine ability to bring what we believe to life in the matrix of energy that bathes and surrounds us.”

Relationships are the gateway to freedom

This morning I read a insightful article that resonated well with my heart and I’d like to share it with you. It’s written by Jafree Ozwald from Enlightened Beings.

“Only in relationship can you know yourself, not in abstraction and certainly not in isolation.” J. Krishnamurti

The quality of our relationships is the best guide we have to knowing ourselves. The way we interact, react and respond to others allows us understand where we are at in our soul’s path and evolution. The way we behave with others acts as a mirror for our own consciousness. It reveals the details of the role we believe we are playing in this world, and lets us clearly see our reflection in the mirror. The more aware we are of the mirror that each relationship has, the easier it becomes to change our response, alter the judgment (reflection) we perceive to be there, and then take a more enlightened approach to the image. Ultimately, the relationship mirror is there to create deep insights into ourselves so we can adjust to create a healthier attitude towards life, and manifest a better world for our future. What you see in your relationship mirror each day reveals everything you need to know about yourself. What you like in others is what you believe you are lacking inside yourself. What you don’t like in others is what you are rejecting and denial of inside yourself. It truly is this simple. The more intimate you can become with everyone in your mirror, the more the Universe will reveal to you where it is you are blocked on your journey and how spiritually evolved you actually are.

Through other people we can see every detail of ourselves. We can see which priorities we deem to be sacred, understand the level of attachment and aloofness we have in our love life, see the level of fear and denial that we are dealing with, and discover all the hidden issues we have buried deeper inside. Relationships help us to see the real source of our pain, loneliness, frustration, and of course get a glimpse into the unconditional love that thrives at the core of our being. It is only through diving into this divine multi-dimensional, multi-sensual mirror that the divine supreme consciousness inside our soul can be discovered! Once this pure consciousness is found and brought up through the murky waters into every relationship we have, it paves a path for permanent and total liberation from all forms of suffering that have encaged us in all our lives.relationship

“Residing in the mind is hell, prison. Resting in the heart, in love is heaven, freedom. We are more free than any thought conceived of what defines freedom. Who we are is far more vast than anything the mind thinks we are.” ~Angela Walker

Real poverty in life does not come from a lack of financial abundance, energy or creativity. Poverty stems from an avoidance and neglect of looking at who you are in this relationship mirror. Whenever we get into the habit of blaming anything outside ourselves for our unhappiness, we cannot really know why we are unhappy. When we are not using the relationship reflection to see into the truth of who we are being, we cannot develop our most enlightened character that we can imagine becoming on life’s stage.

The richest person in this world is the one who is the most free. This level of freedom in life comes not from a freedom that can be taken away from, yet from simply embracing and accepting wholeheartedly what is seen in the relationship mirror. The wise person has a respect for the feedback found in the reflection, and a state of gratitude for it, no matter how depressing the image may seem to be. There is an equanimity in the mind with where things are at because they can see the bigger picture of life’s journey. This truly enriched enlightened being has developed the habit of approaching others without judgment, fear or manipulation. They simply honor each person as a teacher who was sent to guide the soul back to Source in the most unique and unsuspecting way.

One of the most interesting insights I’ve had in my life was around about how the world actually is and how it sometimes appears to be. The World is this highly intelligent and perfectly organized field of conscious energy, which can appear to be dark, messy, harsh, unjust and abusive. It has both polarities at all times, and when this is realized the mind is not so easily tempted to believe there is only one side. When this enlightening thought hit me it became crystal clear how the Universe is always in a karmically divine order and is constantly in balance within itself. It is never off balance, ever. It only seems to be lacking balance and order when we have a narrowed mind and one-sided perspective.

“The real question is not whether life exists after death. The real question is whether you are alive before death.” ~Osho

When we remove the blinds we can revel in the glory of this sweet unsolvable mystery that is meant to keep us living freely on the edge of the unknown. By welcoming this succulent mystery of the relationship mirror everyday, we can see all three sides of the coin and truly be free. We can know who we spiritually are and start dancing beneath the stars without a care in the world. We can stop to relax and bathe in the Sun’s warm sunshine, enjoy the fluttering of a butterfly passing by, and feel the cool breeze glide across our face as we interact with our community from a place of understanding, lightness, awareness and compassion.

In our most enlightened space, we are constantly choosing to feel accept, love and appreciate ourselves exactly the way we are. This self-loving energy is then reflected outwards, onto everyone else in the world, giving them the feeling of self-acceptance exactly as they are. When we are abiding in this deep state of acceptance, we can find every experience to be exquisitely enlightening. We greet each experience with an open state of outer curiosity and inner self-enquiry. We constantly balance upon the edge of what we know and don’t know to be true.

relationshipIt is this inquisitive state of mind that pushes us to reach into the spiritual depths of the heart and discover the most magnificent home that is within our innermost being. By simply abiding in a state of wonder we can know how easy it is to evolve in consciousness, and every day discover a joyous heart in our chest overflowing with gratitude and love. This is the only way we can truly transcend all the suffering created in the mind.

During your day, whenever you can, stop to take a good long look inside yourself. Notice if either you have a heart filled with peace, or a mind caught in some whirlwind of thinking. It’s either one or the other, never do they both exist together. It’s like water and oil, they remain distinct and separate yet can appear to be mixed. When you’re looking inside, if you don’t like what you find, remember that you are the highest authority of your life! You are The Great Divine Master of your inner world. You have the power to make it into a heaven or a hell, and it’s all depending on one little thing. How connected are you with your heart. By forming a practice of creating a cozy sweet nest which you can feel is “home sweet home” within your heart, your journey through life will never feel cold, dark, lonely or fearful. Instead you will always have light and warmth wherever you are.

“And this is a miracle: the moment that you realize that there is no way to make a home, then this whole existence is home. Then wherever you are, you are at home.” ~Course in Miracles

Relationships are designed to not turn out the way we think they should because they are meant to make you grow in the most miraculous ways. The enlightened path of relationship is the path to total freedom because it throws us into the greatest spiritual journey of our lives. Relationships are the advanced life mastery course of life, they are the most ultimate challenge we can take. When we open up to explore a deep intimate relationship with someone, we have to look at ourselves in the spiritual mirror. The deeper we go, the more we will learn. Even if the relationship fizzles out in a week, falls through the cracks in a few months, or ends in devastating divorce after years, we are always given the gift of freedom in the end. The feeling of total liberation hits us like a gentle feather or a brick, depending on if we looked into the mirror and discovered this divine succulent spiritual truth of who we really are along the way.

Perhaps the greatest tip I’ve found in creating a healthy loving relationship is first knowing exactly what will ruin it. It’s important to know that the very moment you stop enjoying your relationship, you are starting to destroy it. You’ll also kill any relationship by imposing your ideas about how the other should and should not be. If you don’t tell the whole truth, hide your feelings, and don’t be impeccable with your word you’ll squeeze the life out of it. If you hide, play emotionally small, think small thoughts, and don’t ever take a risk to be real they cannot respect you and will one day walk away. If you can never apologize for anything, they will always be at a distance for you. The secret is doing the opposite of each of these things. We all deserve some room to make mistakes in life, and yet if you are spending years feeling stuck in your relationship, you’re not taking the time to look at the reflection in the mirror that’s right in front of you.

“The day on which we come to know the supreme consciousness within us, then the outside world will also appear to us like the expanse of the supreme consciousness. The whole will be a mirror to us when we become a mirror within.” ~Osho

theme_relationshipsThe last insight that I wish to share with you today, may be one of the greatest secrets to mastering relationships of them all. This is about knowing how to distinguish and interact with the two types of people in life. There are those who feed you, and those who feed off of you. People will either try to inspire you and lift you up, or devour your energy and pull you down. Many people out there aren’t yet conscious about how they are relating to you, nor the impact they have upon you. They live too close to their mind and cannot see the reflection in the mirror. The responsibility then is yours if you are falling prey to someone who pulls you down each day. Notice how do you respond when this someone is pulling your energy down? Why do you respond the way you do? Once you are able to respond with respect for yourself and never let anyone pull you down into the emotional dumpster with them, you have mastered one of the greatest lessons in this life.

In the end, we are each the ultimate authorities of what we manifest in our lives. We are each responsible for enjoying the people we bring into our homes, and responsible for the way we allow them to treat us. We are responsible if others can enjoy us, or feel forced to run away from us. We are the real authority. The greatest relationship is with ourselves. The other is there so our soul is pushed deeper, and we stop pointing the finger at the outer world for our lack of love or power. The connection with our own soul is where the gold is at, and this happens simply by turning our attention towards no other direction than the central heart of our being.

The heart is the answer to all our problems in life. We did not come to Earth to micromanage our lives, achieve our goals, reach to the top, or fix our broken self-esteem. Our mission here is much simpler and sweeter than this. We are here to abide in the heart, transcend the ego, find our real spiritual path and ascend into each day with pure unconditional love from our soul. We were born to discover that who we truly are is beyond the form and the formless. We are here to remember that we are timeless spiritual beings who do not die. We came here to embody this sweet sacred knowing and develop an everyday understanding that eternity is our natural state of being. This is why we are here, and understanding this in relationship brings about the gateway to freedom.