It’s not personal

Each of us comes into this world with a particular mission, written within our souls. I have myimages own mission as you have yours. We might cross paths as our individual missions in one way or another may interact with eachother’s – however each and every single one of us will still be alone on our own spiritual journey in order to fulfill our own particular mission. And we all have our lessons to learn…our experiences and wisdom to gain. This means that we once or a couple of times in life say or do things that aren’t in the best of interest for our own spiritual growth nor for anyone else – it is however a step that needs to be taken on our journey as we mature and, like a baby taking it’s first steps, are navigating and trying to master something that is so much greater than ourselves. So don’t take anything anyone else’s doing personally as it is not you who are the Star of their show, it is themselves.

If you manage to master this blessing you’ll be able to share of your love imagesCAGT5V9Qbut still not be a target for someone elses harmful words or actions. You won’t need to put your trust in what other people do or say as you will not be affected by it – each and everyone must owe up to take responsibility for their own reality. You can choose to follow your heart always no matter what as no one will be able to harm you – enabling you to focus on how to share of your greatest gift, love.

If being faced with feelings of hurt, instead of choosing any of the “easier” options like feeling sorry for yourself, “paying back” or feeling resentment towards the one who “caused” you pain – in fact inflicted pain on him or herself – ask yourself “How am I going to grow from this? How can I use this to make me my most Divine self? What can I now contribute that I couldn’t have if I had never had this experience?” Embrace the experience – I know it ain’t easy every time but try –, vision the greater Divine picture and learn from it. Always remember, it really really isn’t personal!

 

Forgiveness is the highest form of love

To forgive is the highest, most beautiful form of love. In return, you will receive untold peace and happiness.” – Robert Muller

Nearly everyone has been hurt by the actions or words of another, creating wounds that in someforgive instances go very deep. These wounds can easily leave you with feelings of anger, bitterness and even vengeance. Thing is, if you don’t practice forgiveness you may be the one who pays the highest price. By embracing forgiveness you embrace inner peace, faith, love and gratitude.

To practise forgiveness in a certain situation demands an active decision to let go of resentment and thoughts of revenge. It doesn’t mean that you excuse the act – everyone has responsibility for their own actions, good or bad – it simply means that you choose to focus on the positive parts of your life. And strange as it may seem, sometimes forgiveness leads to some understanding and compassion for the one who hurt you. At times it may even lead to a deeper more loving relationship between the two individuals involved, the bond has grown stronger.

Betrayal – a matter of growth

Have you ever been in a situation where you felt totally betrayed by someone else? Where you’ve put your time, trust and faith into a relationship – any kind of relationship – with someone just to have them act in a way which you feel is disrespectful to you and abuse of your trust and faith?

trust1To forgive someone who, maybe even intentionally, have done you wrong might be one of the hardest things to do – especially when you’ve put a great deal of love, trust and faith in that individual. I believe most of us have had to face something like that at least once but more likely a few times in our lives. The pain that such perceived betrayal comes with is unspeakable and for many, only second to that of the death of a loved one. Which in a way makes sense  since when faced with such a painful situation you have in fact lost someone – and a relation – that you have held dearly, treasured deeply and have had great faith in. It’s gone – no longer existing. Most times we also instantly feel the need to understand “why?!”

First of all, on the “why?!”-question? Does it matter? No – not unless someone was having a gun held to their or one of their loved ones head. We are all blessed with the freedom of choice and if someone chooses to act in a way that crosses the line – and most of us know where the lintumblr_m5izmtEveK1rtrb2qo1_500e goes, “common sense” – for the benefit of someone or something else obviously more important, then in my point of view I was not valued very highly as an individual. “Why” does not matter at all. What matter is what you choose to do to move forward.

Although I do not find it important to examine the reason the event happened I do believe that it’s necessary to examine your own TRUE feelings about it – to reach out to your higher consciousness. With this I mean that you need to go BEYOND the thoughts that your Ego is creating – like wounded pride or worries about others point of view – and think about your own true feelings about the situation. When you’ve done that it’ll be easy to take the next step – towards forgiveness. At that point you’ll know that you need to do nothing – it’s forgiveness. It is so well put in the ACIM:

“[…] What then takes its place is now the will of God. Forgiveness is still and quietly does nothing. It offends no aspects of reality, nor seeks to twist it to appearances it likes. It merely looks, and waits, and judges not. He who would not forgive must judge for he must justify his failure to forgive. But he who would forgive himself must learn to welcome truth exactly as it is. Do nothing then, and let forgiveness show you what to do, through Him who is your guide, your Savior and Protector, strong in hope, and certain of your ultimate success.”

With this I am not saying that you should move on with this individual. Only you know if that’s the right thing for you to do. You are the only one who know what the “right” course of action trustis for you, at this time in your life. You should do that which make sure you’ll stay in tune with the Divine as this reasures your path will be one of spiritual growth and connection. And you are not sure what to do – ask for God’s guidance. “If you ask you will receive” – always.

Remember that everything happens for a reason and sometimes God do send you that special someone in order for you to learn the spiritual lessons you need to learn. The most important thing is to stay true to your own spiritual growth and let other deal with theirs. Be thankful however for your good heart and for your faithful trust – it is a blessing from God!♥

“Life’s up and downs provide windows of opportunity to determine your values and goals. Think of using all obstacles as stepping stones to build the life you want.” – Marsha Sinetar

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Saturday’s wisdom: Bitter or Better?

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Life: Path to happiness

Many people, including myself from time to time, feel that as global citizens we are over-stimulated on so many levels. This over-stimulation has led us to a point where it at times seems that we have lost the ability to pursue one thing at the time, out of fear that we’ll somehow miss out on all the others. It also has led us to lose our connection with our inner voice. Sometimes to such a degree that we forget to saviour the blessings God has provided us with.

The silence of ones inner voice – or purpose, if you’d prefer – is without doubt one of the main reason that the people I’ve been working with have experienced some or many parts of their life as a struggle. A tough, many times seemingly never-ending, struggle for “something else” or “everything”, be it greater “success”, that promotion, a job,  another job, the perfect partner, more money, a house, a bigger house, a more expensive car or even two, preferably more material things or anything else that in one way or another provides a (false) sense of being “good enough” or “successful” – more admiration, or even better, envy from others. More, more and more stimulation or anything that can satisfy ones Ego in its search for validation, short-term gratification and external recognition. Mostly at any price.

Yet there’s still a feeling of not being good enough – a sense of emptiness – and/or a void within. A void that not even the deepest precious love from our nearest and dearest can fill. A void that seem be always present – hence the feeling of never-ending struggle. Lack of happiness. And as a “problem-solver”, instead of looking at their selves some individuals instead express themselves as victims. OthersimagesC even put blame on their loved one(s) for “not providing” that which they feels their loved one(s) in fact should be providing – the picture-perfect relationship and/or family – without acknowledging that it takes two to tango or simply understanding that two half individuals can not and should not become one whole. For some people this widely spread denial of ones own responsibility for ones own life, choices and happiness have caused them to stir up emotions, relationships and even families because they were “unhappy” and someone (else) should’ve fixed it. As humans we want and need to feel authentic, to contribute, to experience and to give more love, wanting to ‘do what I came here to do’ and yet instead of doing and becoming this with our loved one(s) close to us – embarking on the journey together – we go separate ways. And continue to look for that “perfect partner” and/or “new family” whom will “make” us happy…and the next one…

What we need to do is to stop moving forward like a run-away train and start looking inside of ourselves to ask ourselves some important questions. It is only by doing so we can take our first steps along the path of our true destiny and purpose – towards total happiness. One needs to connect with one’s heart and to honor one’s soul’s deepest yearnings and not just follow the “regular”, “normal” and socially accepted path and, by that, simply take what you get. And then you make your choices and take proper action – based on honest (to yourself), compassionate, loving and wise grounds.  It’s all worth it, which is something that many people whom already are happily engaged on their own fulfilling path – contributing to the lives of others, waking up each day happy to be alive and bursting with a sense of purpose and deep personal satisfaction – will vouch for. I’ve been blessed to follow many of my clients on their journeys, sometimes even from their momenmeditatingts of shifting gear into a new exiting path. It is truly a wonderful experience and blessing – every single time – when an individual come to discover that all his/hers answers are found within. Answers that simply might have been long-buried under feelings of self-doubt, confusion, over-thinking, other people’s expectations or perhaps even all the above.

So, how do you reach this inner knowledge? How to you truly get to know yourself and that which will bring you true happiness? This is where meditation steps in. For you, as for many others, meditation can be the key to discovering what you are “all about”.  your greater Purpose. Meditation, with a consistent repetition, is a wonderful “tool” of learning that surely can take you from where you are today to significant spiritual, emotional and intuitive growth. Meditation not only allows us to connect with our divine consciousness – and thereby gain access to wisdom that resides beyond the reach of our everyday consciousness – but it also provides for invaluable insights about oneself and the nature of ones own purpose.

By practising meditation – and prayer, if one wants to separate them (I read somewhere that what separates themImage1 is that “in prayer You are asking God the questions and in meditation He is providing you with the answers”) – we somehow can familiarise ourselves with our true nature and gain a deeper awareness of ourselves. Finding ourselves means learning to observe ourselves, our lives and the evidence they present to us about who, or what, we are. It does require though that we are transparent to ourselves, in other words that we are being honest, non-judgemental and loving towards ourselves regardless of what we “find”. And eventually, as you begin to master your spiritual growth and go along through this journey I am confident you’ll eventually find that you begin to practise the same approach to other people.

Meditation really is a path to greater self-awareness. And it’s simple. Listening is the key – and trusting, knowing and allowing are the doors it opens. Remember, it’s never ever too late to begin again and you’re never too old to start living your life on your own terms. We are all God’s children, just beginning to take our first tentative steps. And if you’ve been struggling be thankful that this struggle has led you to meditation because meditation will lead you to happiness.

Monday Wisdom

“Living a reflective life is a powerful spiritual discipline. Periodically and intentionally looking back over the past months brings insights, joys, and perhaps regret. Regret can be a wonderful teacher, full of lessons that motivate future behavior.” – Jean Houston

Life

…blessed encounters ♥

Yesterday a loved one of mine shared a recording with me, featuring the talented Jack Kornfield who was talking about relationships. Listening to his wisdom got me thinking about how in fact each and every being that we encounter in our personal and professional lives are a blessed such.

blessingMr Kornfield discussed the different kinds of relationships we have in our lives and the different way they help us to evolve on our spiritual journey. I was fascinated to hear his definition on what he believes is needed in order for a love relationship to be one that helps the two parties involved grow in all areas and not only as a couple but also individually. I most definitely agree with his point of view – and his definition on a truly successful relationship – as I am a strong believer of that the individuals we encounter on our life’s road are sent our way for a specific reason, to in one way or another give us the opportunity to further spiritual growth.

Sometimes we sadly are too occupied with other things to even notice these spiritual teachers and other times we simply recognize them at once. Some of these individuals make a huge impact on our heart and soul and therefore stay in our life for a long period time – maybe even until we pass away, or pass on – while others only crosses our path very briefly. With some of these individuals we may find a friendship attraction and with others a romantic attraction. With some the attraction might be a sexual one and yet with others it may solely be a spiritual one.

happy togetherHowever, once or a few more times in our lifetime we encounter an individual with whom we find an attraction that reaches over all of the four mentioned areas. An attraction that brings with it a close and loving relationship that deepens the friendship as well as the individuals romance and sexual experiences together – their intimacy – as they evolve and explore their spiritual connection as a couple and individually.

It’s always a beautiful encounter when both parties recognize the divine opportunity given and are not only willing but also eager to explore all aspects of life together – each open to individual spiritual lessons and knowledge but always shared with one another. Soulmates maybe? …crossing eachothers path in one lifetime to another? Well, who knows but our God. A blessing it is however as such a intimate and spiritually growing relationship with another human being truly is the most precious gift there is and such a divine gift from our Lord is to be carefully and tenderly cherished…not to prove ourselves presently unworthy of such a gift. God´s grace is good♥

“When you truly find love, you find yourself. Therefore the path to love isn’t a choice, for all of us must find out who we are. This is our spiritual destiny. The path can be postponed; you can lose faith in it or even despair that love exists at all. None of that is permanent; only the path is. Doubt reflects the ego, which is bound in time and space; love reflects God, eternal divine essence. The ultimate promise on the path to love is that you will walk in the light of a truth extending beyond any truth your mind presently knows. Love never forces. Love is intelligent and brings only what you need. Love can heal. Love can renew. Love can make us safe. Love can inspire us with its power. Love can bring us closer to God.” – Deepak Chopra

Pure Joy: Conquer Your Fears

Courage is all about being afraid but acting anyway. It is taking a huge leap of faith and act towards something or someone although being afraid. It is listening to God´s voice -which always guides you towards personal growth and true love and not against it – although relatives, friends or others around you advise against it, for whatever expressed purpose. It is trusting yourself and the knowledge you have that God has sent this thing, opportunity, individual etc your way for a very specific positive reason. Courage is taking calculatcourageed risks and realising that in the end you have so much more to gain than to loose. It is being able “at any moment to sacrifice what we are for what we could become” as put by Charles DuBois. Always. Think about it.

Imagine if a fearless spirit took over your body, and used your brain and skills and knowledge. Because this spirit wouldn´t identify with those fearful thoughts that you have as its own, it wouldn´t act accordingly, it would hear them but dismiss them as unimportant. Do you think such a spirit could do or would do things different than you? Well, some may still say that we do need to consider what might go wrong so we won´t make mistakes. Yes, it is logical to think like that. I used to do that myself for a very long time. I brought my professional assignment of analysing and preparing for “the worst case scenario” into my personal life, doing the same thing. At times it was very useful as it felt reassuring to have had covered “the worst thing that could happen” and know that no matter what, I had it all under control – or so I thought. Picturing a “worst case scenario” can be a good thing though if used appropriate. I do not know of anyone who actually have manage to do that however. I sure didn´t manage to use it appropriate myself, which led me to experience lack of control over all things that I wished I would have had control over. I only caused myself to experience more stress. However, very grateful for all the lessons learned, I have since come to terms with that with a strong sense of courage – based on a deep trust in that everything works out accordingly to the bigger purpose, my life’s purpose or God’s plan for me – I do not need to be afraid. What a relief!

i-have-learnedBy being courageous life feels so much easier and fun! By putting our trust in God, knowing that if we just realise and are  appreciative of what or who He sends our way, everything will work out positively as it is meant to be. I’m not saying of course that you should be careless or take the type of risks that could have a negative effect on others or yourself, at least not without everyone included actually agreeing to it. There is however a huge difference between having fearful thoughts that hinder your evolution – your growth as a human being – and the thoughts you have when you in fact have to deal with something that has happened. Let go of all anxiety as you really don’t need it in order to see danger or to take precautions. Your fearful thoughts doesn’t protect you from making mistakes. They do nothing but discourage you. And God doesn´t discourage. God offers guidance, support and courage. God is good and wants nothing but goodness for you.

By being courageous enough to explore whatever He has sent your way I’m absolutely sure that you’ll feel awarded for it. After all, what’s the worst thing that could happen? …you see! Now think about the best thing that could happen and you’ll realize that you do not have anything to be afraid of but everything to gain. Have faith in what or whom God has send you and it’ll all work out for the best! One of my favourite quotes are “courage is not the absence of fear but rather the judgement that something else is more important than feIMG_4786ar”. If you think about that you’ll see that there is so much you can and should do, it could be anything from travelling to unknown places, meeting new people whom might be strangers but can turn out to become your best friends, taking that professional  course which might be the first step to an new exciting career or by giving that specifik person an second chance and be blessed with an soulmate.

In other words, have faith in what or whoever God sends your way, be courageous to explore the possibilities of what can be and it’ll all work out for the best! Dare to take a huge leap of faith in yourself and in the Divine – you surely will find gold at the end of the rainbow. I know this for a fact! I’ve done it more times than I can count and no matter what I experienced along the way, it’s always been and still am worth it in the end. Pure Joy and Happiness ♥

“Happiness…

…resides not in possessions and not in gold, happiness dwells in the soul”, said Democritus.coffee-smile

Finding your true purpose is the most important challenge you will take in your life. Every single step on the way will make you feel empowered as you move closer towards that of which God intended you to do and experience. And the closer you get to know God and feel the Divine – that intense connection with something greater, that which make you feel the Truth deep in your soul – the more you will come to understand your true purpose of this life you’ve been given. I know this whole concept might be mind and life altering but I believe it to be absolutely true. When you find your true purpose in this life and that close “communication” with God, it will also make you positively connect to the collective consciousness – that of which we all are part of and consequently are affected by.

Are your thoughts serving you for the better?

karma-act-samskYou are what you think. Sounds strange? Well it’s not. Not at all in fact. Our thoughts acts like a boomerang as what goes out there – what you are sending out – is what will come back to you.

I was first introduced to the law of attraction many of years ago and, more thinking of it as a sort of self-improvement concept, I didn’t pay much attention to it. However, some years after my first introduction I was once again faced with a believer of the Law which led me to start analyse the events in my life and the circumstances surrounding them as well as the thoughts I had at the time. And I realized there may be some truth to it all. It’s similar to the wheel of cause and effect (Karma) and this I am a true believer in and follower of.

So what is the Law of attraction? The Wikipedia defines is as “…[…] a metaphysical New Thought belief that “like attract like”, that positive and negative thinking bring about positive and negative physical results, respectively.” The principles of the law of attraction has been interpreted in various ways, all equally interesting to take part of for those whom like myself are curious about the different faiths and teachings that find their way to so many souls across the globe.

“He is greatest whose strength carries up the most hearts by the attraction of his own” – Henry Beecher

You are what you are thinking. Yes. It’s simple. Some people choose to see the goodness in others – to the point of being naïve at times – while others choose to see the worst in some people – to the point of being paranoid at times. In any case, ones choice of view very obviously tells more of what kind of individual YOU are – as in what YOUR thoughts, hopes and, maybe most of all, fears are – not that of the person or that person’s actions whom you are judging as “good” or “bad”.

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